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Ashpan26 Sat 30-Apr-16 17:08:15

Hey ladies I am 5 weeks pregnant and I have known for nearly a week but I haven't told our family or friends yet I'm not sure if it's too soon? also what are good ways to announce the exciting news? Thanks

Beth2511 Sat 30-Apr-16 17:52:08

The ast vast majority of people wait for the 12 week scan to make sure all is ok. Never known anyone to announce earlier than 8-9 weeks!

I told my family straight away but that was it.

kiki22 Sat 30-Apr-16 18:20:20

I told my family and close friends straight away and everyone else 8 weeks-ish, I previously had a mc and knew keeping it a secret wouldn't help if the worst happened so there was little point in not telling anyone plus I would have to tell co workers for h&s. I told people as they asked how I was along the lines of how are you? Me: Pregnant u? It was fun to do it over and over and to see peoples faces go 😲😳😤. I put a funny fb post a few weeks later keep calm I'm pregnant type thing once I got bored of telling people.

It's great fun to announce it I've loved seeing peoples faces even people you would think wouldn't care always seem to get some joy from baby news its like universal good news everyone's happy to hear there will be a baby.

Roobix04 Sat 30-Apr-16 18:25:12

Close family and best friend at 8 weeks both pregnancies. Mainly because I was too ill to hide it. Then a Facebook announcement after the 12 week scans with the scan photo. Congratulations!

TiredOfSleep Sat 30-Apr-16 18:25:21

My husband informed his colleagues I was pregnant by reminding them that I'd been ill (I'd had bad morning sickness so he'd wfh and left early on occasion) and that following a hospital appt they had confirmed I had a parasite (which v technically a baby is until the placenta is formed...), he's got a pic if anyone wants a look!

Doubt anyone remotely sane would want to follow suit but it made me laugh!

ItsTimeForANewUserName Sat 30-Apr-16 18:32:47

Congratulations OP I know it's enormously exciting but remember its very early days (technically you are only 2-3 weeks if you are dating from LMP).

There's no hard and fast rules about when to announce but like PP many prefer to wait til after initial scan to go public.

I was 12-13 weeks at Christmas so we brought our respective mums a grandparents book which they opened as an 'extra' present. I'll never forget my Mum's reaction as she slowly realised what it meant.

Ilovewillow Sat 30-Apr-16 18:37:14

Firstly congratulations!! smile. We had IVF with both of our children so knew at two weeks. We told parents as they knew about the treatment but we worried sick about something going wrong so waited until 16 weeks (you could tell by then anyway)!

BennyTheBall Sat 30-Apr-16 18:39:26

I managed not to tell most people until I was 20 weeks as that was when I started to show.

I didn't do a big announcement, just dropped it into conversation.

SecretSquirrelsSecretFriend Sat 30-Apr-16 18:42:20

Family and some friends as and when I saw them after we found out. We told DD after the scan and she took care of the rest!

notamummy10 Sat 30-Apr-16 18:44:35

Whenever you feel comfortable announcing it, I know people do prefer to wait until after their 12 week scan to announce it as the risk for miscarriages reduces after the first trimester.

Congratulations! smile

Oysterbabe Sat 30-Apr-16 19:25:05

We didn't tell anyone until after the 12 week scan. Had I miscarriaged I would have then told my family and sought support. It would have been too hard for me for them to get excited about the pregnancy only for me to have to break bad news.
When I was about 20 weeks I posted a picture of a bun in an oven on FB. Cryptic smile

Misnomer Sat 30-Apr-16 19:30:56

I told different people at different times for all of them. With the first I had to tell work before 12 weeks, which hadn't been my intention originally, because they were fumigating one of the places that I worked so I had to avoid it. I then lost my second pregnancy and found it really hard to reach out for support as I hadn't told many people I was pregnant and it felt painful and awkward to say that I had been pregnant but I wasn't any longer. For the last two pregnancies I told the people I would need support from early on and then everyone else as and when it came up.

bippitybopityboo Sat 30-Apr-16 19:40:20

I told people I'd want support from if anything bad happened straight away, mum auntie sister! We told the rest of out families a week before 12 week scan as it was christmas day and as it's 1st grandchild for both sides we thought it a lovely idea! We announced on facebook to friends with a picture of DH'S allstar sannies and a matching pair of baby's ones as we wanted to keep scan pics for us! There's no right time it's when is good for YOU!smile

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt Sat 30-Apr-16 19:52:43

I'm over 17 weeks and not all our family and close friends know yet. I only told my mum last week (she's 3 hours away).

RaeSkywalker Sat 30-Apr-16 20:01:09

We didn't want to tell anyone until the 12 week scan. However, I've got HG which kicked in at around the 4 week mark, and have been hospitalised with it once.

So, we've had to tell: my parents, my brother and his DP, my manager and DH's manager.

There are close friends I'm desperate to tell but we will wait until the scan (I'm 11 weeks tomorrow) unless one of them asks me outright in the meantime! If all is ok at the scan, I'll probably text my extended family and 5 close friends straight away, but everyone else will probably be told as we see them. I'm not the 'big announcement' type!

jobrum Sat 30-Apr-16 20:08:48

I told my hairdresser at about ten weeks as I'd cancelled a couple of appointments thanks to morning sickness and I told my very small team at work only a couple of weeks after I found out, again thanks to morning sickness. No way to hide running away from my desk a few times a day!

A couple of months in seems reasonable though. I did tell two friends early but only when I found out they were a couple of months further along than me. The support is nice in those early weeks.

Ashpan26 Sat 30-Apr-16 20:36:16

Thanks for all your replies it seems better to let close family know first then wait until 12 weeks to tell anyone else I have a concert with a friend aswell next week and we were planning on having a drink I feel I will have to tell her now ha

SockQueen Sat 30-Apr-16 22:34:36

I told my parents and in-laws around 8 weeks, which was the first time we saw them face-to-face since finding out. Had to tell a couple of people at work similarly early for safety reasons, and one or two friends because we were planning holidays together. After the twelve week scan we told other friends and family in general, but have not announced on FB, and nor will we until the baby is born (currently 21/40).

When we were struggling with TTC, I got really upset seeing people's 12 week scans on FB - even more if it became their profile pic - so I didn't want to inflict that on any of my friends who might also be struggling in silence.

YellowPirate Sun 01-May-16 08:10:41

We told our parents and siblings, plus best friends at 8 weeks, after having an early reassurance scan. I'm 13.5 now and only had the 12 week scan on Friday, so I think we'll tell everyone next weekend once we've had the blood test results back. X

chelle792 Sun 01-May-16 08:19:42

I've told a couple of friends and will be telling mil and fil today. I had a mmc last summer and we are telling the people whose support we need. I'm only four weeks. Every one else we will tell when the time is right. Depends how ill I am. Last time I couldn't eat without puking or stand up without having to grab on to something because of dizziness so people may find out earlier

squeezed Sun 01-May-16 08:24:32

Told my manager straight away because of my job role. Told other people at about 8 weeks because I was so ill and needed their support. I was being so sick that we also told dd, then aged 2, because she was worried about me bless her.

bobcat85 Sun 01-May-16 09:59:34

Told my parents and husband's parents when we found out as well as a couple of good friends. I had to tell work at 5 weeks as I was quite ill and had to go to appointments.
I'm 11+5 now and my 12 week scan is on Wednesday, so all being well we'll tell other people after that. Although I've kind of disappeared from social events due to tiredness so I think some people may have guessed.

StarkyTheDirewolf Sun 01-May-16 13:51:09

I'm 10+3 and we haven't told a soul. Got my hospital bloods appt on Friday and then will be given a scan date, so all being well, it will be after 12 weeks before we share anything with anybody.

It's been a bit tedious, especially as I'm close with my family, see dps twice a week at least, dsis lives either us Thursday - Sunday, but I've been incredibly fortunate not to have suffered massively so far.

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