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Pregnant and unsure

(5 Posts)
Alayna1993 Sun 17-Apr-16 22:18:38

I am 22 and have a five year old. I had a miscarriage two months ago. After I started birth control because I didn't want to risk pregnancy again and I am pregnant again. I just found out yesterday because my period was due and didn't come and normally my cycle is like clockwork. I took a test and it was positive! The only symptom I have is sore nipples so that's nice. I don't feel ready for this baby being that I am so young and things didn't work out the first time around. I am afraid of the same thing happening this time. However, I must admit I could tell my son would love a sibling. It's me that's not ready. My boyfriend is happy. I did not want a child with him being that he is controlling and I just don't see this going well. However, I have had three abortions in my past. I think it's safe to say I need to take responsibility for my actions. Not only that but I'm sure it's not good for my body. I already have a guilty conscience about it and l believe that I will pay with some form or cancer in the future. Maybe breast cancer. My boyfriend has a decent sized house in which I would move in with him. And my son too whenever he is with me because his father and I have 50/50. I really don't know. I just need advice.

Ffion3107 Sun 17-Apr-16 22:28:18

If you feel like you're not ready, you're not ready.
You can't just decide that you'll keep it just because your son will be happy.
Your boyfriend doesn't sound nice if he's controlling?

suspiciousofgoldfish Mon 18-Apr-16 14:00:57

You will not pay for your abortions by getting cancer later on. That's your own guilt talking, please don't believe that.

No one can tell you what to do, you need to have a long think about what you can provide for a new baby.

Your boyfriend may not be on the scene forever, or you may not want him to be if he is controlling.... Have you got a good support network of friends and family who could help you?

I can't tell you what to do op, sorry. But your comment about abortion made me want to reply..... I think it's fair to say no one wants to have to make that choice or go through it. Beating yourself up about it won't change anything.

Ggjade11 Mon 18-Apr-16 16:45:36

Hello can someone please help me. I had.the copper coil removed.on the 23rd of March and my period was on the 22nd I have a normal cycle very 26 days. My period is 3 days late as I was due on the 15th of April.. I have taken a test but all negative me and my partner had intercourse on and before my day of ovulation which was bathe 30th 31st 1st and the 2nd. But can the coil removal make me late or could I be pregnant?

Becciilouisex3 Tue 19-Apr-16 23:17:28

I wouldn't like to advise you on the baby front as that should be entirely your decision. You know yourself and your situation best. What I will say though is if your boyfriend is controlling, he isn't who you should be with. Not just for a baby but for you! You may have found this situation slightly more comforting if you were confident that your partner was a good man and would be good for your child. People get pregnant unexpectedly quite often and although it raises all sorts of difficulties ( of course!!! ) your partner shouldn't be one of them.

I hope you find some peace of mind and make the right decision for yourself chick x

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