Hi there, look for some reassurance I think. DC1 is 3. I was/am massively PFB. It took me by surprise as I was VERY laid back during my pregnancy and was expecting a maternity leave full of dropping Baby off at doting grandparents whilst I enjoyed my hobbies and catching up with friends and fun nights out. As it is she still hasn't ever slept the night at PILS and I spent a good 9 months gripped with fear about SIDS. I also remember freaking out at DH because he couldn't grasp washing his hands and then NOT touching his face/patting dog etc between the hand wash and making up a bottle. I still worry massively about other people driving her (have they checked car seat properly) and taking her swimming etc. It's definitely a trust thing as when I have her I am quite relaxed and by no means a helicopter parent. No one has ever done anything to make me feel like this. Everyone who has cared for her has done their best to look after her as per my very annoying instructions and tried to install trust. I just don't know why I feel like it. It's a really raw basic instinct I have. It is easing but doesn't take much to rear its head.
So DH and I really want another baby, but the thought of going through all that angst again fills me with dread. My life was completely on hold as although I had lots of support I just couldn't enjoy any down time as I was so wracked with worry. Please tell me I just have a really bad case of PFB and I won't worry about the second so much?
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Ploppymoodypants · 09/04/2016 18:53
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