Six weeks and having a minor meltdown!(5 Posts)
Hi all. Apologies for the minor meltdown that is about to ensue, it has been brewing for the past couple of days…
I found out I was pregnant last Friday. The tests were strong lines and came up straight away. I did five in total over the course of the weekend Going by LMP this would make me 6 weeks.
I feel like I have had two days of excitement and am gradually becoming more and more worried... All I can think of is that something will go wrong. I don’t feel like my symptoms are strong (slight period style cramps, sore boobs and occasional nausea) and thanks to Dr Google am now worried that this means the pregnancy isn’t strong enough.
I have only told two people; my best friend who lives in Australia and is a bit of a traveller/loner so whilst being happy for me not really that bothered and a work colleague who is 17 weeks. What is really freaking me out is that she told me ANOTHER girl in our team is also PG, about 8 weeks. I am now convinced that out of the three of us something will go wrong and that it will be me. It took me so long to get a BFP and during that time I struggled with so many baby bombs, that I am now petrified of something going wrong and of having to then with two pregnant women.
I know of all this may be irrational and I know odds are probably in my favour…but I am so anxious and worried. I don’t want to look at nice baby things as I am scared I will jinx it and the Internet seems to be awash with negative stats. I feel like the whole time I was trying I worried I was infertile… Now I am still worrying and just want to enjoy this time! I have no idea how I am going to get through the next six weeks!
Easier said than done, but try to take one day at a time or you will drive yourself mad. Things will more than likely be fine, but it is out of your hands. All you can do is look after yourself and take your pregnancy vitamins.
IME, my morning sickness didn't pop up until 8 weeks and then stayed until I was about 14 weeks. Don't feel pregnant now really at 19 +3 apart from the growing belly! The symptoms you have sound normal and you must remember, every pregnancy is different so try not to compare yours to other people's.
Try to relax and take it easy. And congratulations
Stop googling!!! Yes it's true that 1 in 5 pregnancies sadly end in miscarriage and having suffered two I understand your concern. However, most pregnancies work out just fine, and there is no reason why one of you will have issues. TBH, most miscarriages in the early days are due to chromosomal problems in the developing foetus and have very little to do with you or your partner. Sometimes unfortunately the little bean just gets dealt a bad hand. Symptoms come and go too and again have very little bearing on anything. Speaking to the miscarriage association directly may alleviate some of your concerns. I suggest joining an antenatal group on here for your due date where you can share the rollercoaster of emotions with many others or there is a very good thread for those pregnant after miscarriage too.
I'm 9 weeks and I was exactly the same; excited for a few days and then the worry came. I bought a pregnancy relaxation mp3 which I listen to every night and honestly I feel like it's really helped me relax and stop worrying. If you PM me I will send you a link.
I was really nervous all through my first trimester, having had a mc previously. Especially because I had even fewer symptoms than you - not the slightest hint of sickness, boobs not sore until about 10 weeks (and then only mildly), no overwhelming tiredness, a bit of very mild tummy ache occasionally - just didn't 'feel' pregnant in the slightest. Which freaked me out as I'd always heard that sickness meant things were progressing well.
I've just come back from my 20 week scan and am carrying a healthy-looking little boy, so all my worrying was for nothing :-). There's every chance it'll be the same for you.
If at all possible, try to enjoy the fact that you're not feeling like dogcrap (although I never managed to do this myself...).
Best of luck
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