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Moses basket offered as a gift - do i ask when?

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littleb84 · 14/03/2016 16:45

At the beginning of my pregnancy a close family member very kindly offered to buy us a moses basket and stand. I in no way expected them to buy anything and so both both myself & DH thought that this was a lovely offer.

However I am now 35 weeks and there is still no sign of this. Last month DH received a message from them saying they had ordered a basket and stand to match the nursery, however a few weeks later she asked me which design I wanted which made me think that it hadn't been ordered as they said it had. Last week I saw a design i liked and so sent her a picture, she responded saying 'i'll look into it the end of the month'.

At the end of the month I will be close to my due date and so I am anxious to get this bought, home and set up. We also have cats and my plan was for us to have the basket around for a few weeks prior so they could get used to it been around, and for us to make sure they are not using it themselves before baby arrives.

I feel a little stuck about what to do. Do I ask them when we will receive this? Or should I leave it until the end of the month to see what happens? Or do I buy it myself to reduce the risk of not having this in time (and how do I do this without hurting their feelings)? This family member does have previous with gifts offered and them not appearing, eg a very generously promised wedding present (& again in no way expected) has never appeared and we married 5 years ago. So as bad as i feel for saying this, i kind of don't believe that the moses basket will appear either and so I am reluctant to place my trust in them for this item.

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Frank85 · 14/03/2016 16:57

Buy it and set it up
If another one appears before you have the baby just return it

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Mouthfulofquiz · 14/03/2016 17:06

Id buy one and if the other one appears, make use of it downstairs or something? That's what I'd do!

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April2013 · 14/03/2016 17:10

I was in same situation with car seat, so frustrating - I would get cot set up and then if baby arrives before Moses basket you will be fine and perhaps find one you can go out and buy easily\quickly in the first few days if it never appears.

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littleb84 · 14/03/2016 19:21

Yeah April it's frustrating, and I feel so ungrateful for thinking the worst and doubting them, but like the car seat it's an item you can't really wait around for.

Thanks....I think I will buy one as a back up plan & then return if it the gifted one does turn up.