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I don't like my community midwives (UK based) - Help!

(12 Posts)
Cassie2015 Tue 01-Mar-16 09:13:03

Can I see any others???

My baby was extremely poorly and diagnosed at 20 weeks for my first pregnancy (heart condition) and needed at least 3 open heart surgeries. I felt as I was not going to give birth at the local midwifery unit, they completely lost interest. Some of my issues were:
- midwives never read notes from cardiac consultants and I constantly had to explain from the start that my baby could die.
- My history was wrong on my notes: I had 2 early miscarriages and it said 1 miscarriage under 12 weeks and 1 abortion over 12 weeks. I asked if it could be corrected and student said that the system did not allow to enter 2 miscarriages. Yeah right.
- I was left with students. Fine if they are in the room but are they supposed to do a whole appointment without supervision?
- Constantly late!
- Midwife told me how a French lady died of pre-eclampsia. I am French and had no signs of pre-eclampsia so must have been small talk..? Like I did not have enough worries.
- I wrote an email asking for clarification and the chef midwife saw me next saying she would be my midwife from now on and said I should have said earlier but did not answer any questions from my email. Very patronising.
- The chef midwife found out my baby was born and she said she would come and see us. Never did. Fair play, I was in hospital and baby was looked after by doctors and cardiologists but don't pretend you want to go the extra mile to support me and not turn up!

Now, I am pregnant again and need to book a booking appointment but really don't want to see these midwives again! How can I see other midwives?

frikadela01 Tue 01-Mar-16 09:40:45

So sorry all that happened to you flowers

How long ago was your first pregnancy. There could be different midwives in the community team now. I'm not sure how you go about seeing midwives from a different team though.

Cassie2015 Tue 01-Mar-16 09:48:30

Only last year sad

I fell pregnant in October 2014 and baby was born in June 2015. I am now 7+2 pregnant and I just really don't want to see them again. I know it's stupid cos the hospital will carry out extra checks and I ll see a cardiologist for baby so midwife will just carry out regular routine check ups but I really need extra support. I lost my first son in December and whilst I am happy about this pregnancy, I am scared and worried. I am still on maternity leave from my first baby so not at work. I am grieving and pregnant so feel very vulnerable.

Could I possibly see midwives from a different community? I would not mind travelling but no idea who I should contact to find out.

HariboFrenzy Tue 01-Mar-16 09:54:34

Could you try the supervisor of midwives at the hospital you gave birth at last year?

flowers so sorry your first baby was so poorly xx

Lotsofplanetshaveanorth Tue 01-Mar-16 09:57:55

Sending love

Cassie2015 Tue 01-Mar-16 10:06:52

I did not give birth to my local hospital with my first because the surgeries for my the condition my baby had are only done in a few hospital in the UK. I had extra scans whilst pregnant with him at my local but whilst they have antenatal cardiologists, they don't do the surgeries any more.

I keep trying to get hold my local hospital to find out more but can't get hold of the right person, I am being thrown from one department to another and don't know who I need to ask.

I guess hospitals don't do routine check ups do they?

Fifi10 Tue 01-Mar-16 10:48:38

Give your medical history you may be consultant led anyway (if classed as high risk) so you may end up seeing the consultant for appts rather than the community midwives.

I would definitely book an appointment with the supervisor of midwives to discuss your concerns, the community midwives will have a named supervisor who is usually hospital based but can still get involved in supporting your care.

Cassie2015 Tue 01-Mar-16 10:55:43

Just found out my GP referred me for my 12 week scan but also for obstetrics? I tried to call obstetrics but no one is picking up. Do you know what that means? Is it routine appointments with hospital then?

rainbowontheway Tue 01-Mar-16 10:58:33

Contact your local supervisor of midwives and request a new midwife. I did as I wasn't happy with my previous midwife who didn't reassure me despite my miscarriage history. I got a new midwife who is fab. Was straightforward. I'm consultant-led too btw.

Quodlibet Tue 01-Mar-16 11:01:04

You might be 'shared care' which means some midwife and some obstetrics appts. There is a service called I think One To One Midwives which is a private service but funded through the NHS which you can switch to, although only in some parts of the country. Worth looking them up maybe?

LadyStark Tue 01-Mar-16 11:02:36

Sorry for your loss.

Your GP can do all of your routine antenatal care, may mean a few more appointments as they don't usually take blood themselves like a midwife so would send you to nurse too.

Your obstetrics referral is likely to be for consultant led care which usually happens in place of some midwife appointments anyway.

I think a chat with your GP would be a good first step.

helbly Wed 02-Mar-16 07:29:51

I switched my midwife because I didn't like her. They gave me the option to go to other surgeries in the area if I wanted. Patient choice is key. As long as you're happy to kick up a bit of a fuss, you can see whoever you want

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