anyone else struggling with not feeling sexy

[applesvpears]

OH and I are off on a date night tonight and I am feeling a bit insecure about my size. I'm 34 weeks pregnant and pretty big to be honest. I am usually a size ten and I am worried I will still look like this once our baby arrives. His ex wife (size 6) sprung back into shape after having his other kids which makes me feel even more paranoid. I would normally be wearing a sexy dress and feeling desired by him. Today I feel huge and not sexy at all. I feel so hideous to the point where I wish we were staying in. I can't even knock back a drink to give me a confidence boost!

[Missingcaffeine]

I think the woman who feels sexy in late pregnancy is probably fairly rare.
Most people bounce back pretty quickly after the birth, especially those who were in good shape before pregnancy. I think I'd lost most of the baby weight in a few months and that was without trying whatsoever - I was eating cake and all sorts of calorific sweet food constantly as I was so so hungry from lack of sleep and breastfeeding and the weight dropped off.
Sexiness is about more than just looks as well, so even if you're not feeling confident, think of someone you know who is really confident and behave like they would.
Enjoy your date!

[BikeRunSki]

I didn't feel at all sexy when I was pg at all, at any stage. Tbf to be though, I spent most of that time either throwing up, or trying not to throw up.

[VagueIdeas]

Sexy could not have been further from my mind for the duration of both of my pregnancies.

From sick to SPD to absolutely massive (and I'm short so didn't carry it well) "sexy" just wasn't an option. But nor did I feel the need to BE sexy. My husband loved me anyway: even more so due to the chronic pain and immobility I was suffering from 24/7!

[zannyminxoxox]

Im 34 weeks and feel the same my husband keeps hinting and im like but I look bleugh and whale like I can't. I can't shave my legs its too much effort my skin is as dry as the desert. I feel bad but if you don't feel sexy you don't feel like doing the naughty.

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

I have a fat face. It's official-i no longer look like me.

[applesvpears]

The date was lovely, but yes definitely felt like a waddley old whale. My face is fat too!!! I hate the fat face part.

[VagueIdeas]

I had a fat NECK. But the weight comes off in the end!

[KeyboardMum]

You're not alone! I'm only 19 weeks into my first pregnancy and I hate how my body has changed. It's really shit. Really not looking forward to the third trimester. I'm lucky that my OH is very supportive and reassures me that I'm still beautiful and attractive to him, but you can't help how you feel when your size 8s no longer fit and your boobs feel like saggy cantaloupes...

[babynumber3eek]

Agree with previous posters but just want to add that comparing yourself to the exw is a hiding to nothing - if your DH wanted to be with his Ex he wouldn't be with you now would he?! Stop putting undue pressure on yourself!

[thundernlightning]

Oh me too! It might be TMI but DH and I had a fantastic sex life before I got pg but since then we've hardly had any. At first it was morning sickness, and now it's because I feel huge and hideous (34 weeks too.)

I'm glad you had a good date! And I agree with the others - I think it's pretty normal, and it's definitely okay!