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I'm worried about my sister :(

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worriedaboutmysis Tue 16-Feb-16 22:22:44

My older sister is pregnant and die March. This is her 2nd child and I am so happy to be an auntie again!

However, she's having a difficult pregnancy and I'm getting really worried about her sad

She delivered naturally first time, but this time they're saying that her placenta is low and the baby is breach, so she will need a c-section?!?

Also, she is forgetting things easily. The other day she didn't know the difference between eastebders and coronation street! I asked her to see themidwife, but she said its normal during pregnancy?!?

Please help me. I'm so worried! sad

Runner05 Tue 16-Feb-16 22:27:33

Baby brain (being forgetful) is normal during pregnancy and well documented and a planned section is a routine operation.
Don't worry, sounds like the dr and midwife are taking good care of your sister and just want to offer her the option that will pose the least risk to both of them.

sepa Wed 17-Feb-16 08:05:34

Baby brain is the reason for her forgetting the difference. The amount of words I have forgotten during pregnancy (such as asking my manager what the word was when you scrunch down cardboard because I forgot the word flatten)

Planned c-sec is also normal. Better than an emergency. Your able to go in there, have your own music played etc. Your sister will be fine

Heirhelp Wed 17-Feb-16 08:09:09

I agree with baby brain. Around 25% of women in the UK have Csections.

If she has a low placenta then she will have to have s Csections as there is a risk either delivering placenta first, in which cause it would stop working and starve the baby of oxygen or placenta would get in the way and prevent birth.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Wed 17-Feb-16 08:14:48

A c section will have been planned because it will be much safer for her than a vagibal delivery. No need to worry there, she's in safe hands.
Pregnant with a toddler? I forgot my own name some days.

GoingLoopyQuickly Wed 17-Feb-16 08:57:07

Planned c section will be fine. I found out abouta new way of delivering by section too which sounds fab of I have to have it. It is called woman centred approach i think but here is a video which explains it.

youtu.be/m5RIcaK98Yg

whifflesqueak Wed 17-Feb-16 09:06:36

I once asked my mother if I should put water in this kettle... while holding an iron.

and that was during my first pregnancy! this time round I swear sometimes my toddler only gets lunch because Andy sings that godawful "what's on your plate?" song on cbeebies at noon as a guilty reminder.

Sparklycat Wed 17-Feb-16 09:23:44

She'll be fine, both things are nothing to worry about smile

worriedaboutmysis Wed 17-Feb-16 09:25:32

Thank you all

Does baby brain go away permanently after birth? How long does it last?

sepa Wed 17-Feb-16 10:09:22

As long as you can get away with it I think grin

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Wed 17-Feb-16 14:12:36

Depends how well the baby sleeps! Mine is 7 months and is still up 3-4 times a night so I still can't remember my own name sometimes.

SecretSpy Wed 17-Feb-16 14:34:18

8 years so far hmm

goodnightdarthvader1 Wed 17-Feb-16 14:54:04

The other day she didn't know the difference between eastebders and coronation street!

hmm Not surprised all that whiny soap opera shit blurred together in her mind.

sepa I've had the whole "forgetting words" thing too.

OP, a c-section isn't the worst thing in the world, either. I'm not sure why you're worried about that.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Wed 17-Feb-16 15:36:12

If you put eastenders and coronation street on for me I wouldn't have a clue which was which! I might stab a guess based on their accents.

Sunnybitch Wed 17-Feb-16 15:43:20

Oh don't you just love baby brain

I was making my mum a cuppa and after looking everywhere for the sugar pot and not being able to find it, she finally said she'd go without, so I went to get the milk out of the fridge and yep there was the sugar pot confused

worriedaboutmysis Wed 17-Feb-16 16:18:27

Fair enough, but she watches both Eastenders and Corrie regularly, so she would normally know the difference!

In regards to the c-section, I just don't like the sound of it. It's an operation and that scares me.

I'm really sorry, I know some of you will be pregnant and I don't want to offend/insult anyone. I have never been pregnant, so it's all very new to me. sad

goodnightdarthvader1 Wed 17-Feb-16 16:46:27

I have never been pregnant, so it's all very new to me.

No offense, but I could tell.

Relax. Your sister will be fine. She's pregnant, not ill.

A c-section is an operation, but natural birth is not without risks, I'm sorry to say, so please don't scare her about it.

You say she's had a tough pregnancy - how so? Vomiting? Other health concerns?

jeremyisahunt Wed 17-Feb-16 19:13:08

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worriedaboutmysis Wed 17-Feb-16 19:14:33

Goodnightdarthvader

By 'tough pregnancy' I meant she's very busy. She's pregnant, plus working full time, and has a toddler. She has told me that she's very tired and looking forward to maternity leave.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Wed 17-Feb-16 19:33:35

By 'tough pregnancy' I meant she's very busy. She's pregnant, plus working full time, and has a toddler. She has told me that she's very tired and looking forward to maternity leave.

That's pretty standard for a second pregnancy. It is bloody tough, and exhausting. Help her out of you can, she'll be fine.

goodnightdarthvader1 Wed 17-Feb-16 19:46:16

Wow, I was expecting HG at the very least, or some other major health complication. She seems fine, it'll all be OK. Just help her out, cook dinner for her, go grocery shopping for her, she'll appreciate your support.

Just curious, how old are you, OP?

sepa Wed 17-Feb-16 19:46:19

If Drs are saying c-section then it's much safer than her giving birth naturally!

A lot of people have toddlers and a full time job. I have no toddler and pregnant and it's tough work!

I think you need to calm down about it. Your sister will be having many MW appointments, will have all the risks told to her for natural birth and c-sec.

It doesn't matter that she watches both Enders and corrie. Baby brain is baby brain and the smallest things are easily forgotten - my mum called me when I was at work. I had to sign for a package (so it took 2 mins max) got back to my desk and carried on working completely forgetting she was on the phone.
Seriously, it's nothing to worry about

worriedaboutmysis Wed 17-Feb-16 20:35:29

I'm 29, female, no kids

goodnightdarthvader1 Wed 17-Feb-16 20:48:50

Are you planning on kids one day?

worriedaboutmysis Thu 18-Feb-16 16:50:31

I probably won't have kids myself. Being an auntie and cat-owner is plenty enough for me! smile

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