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I'm nearly 45 - too late to get pregnant?

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Bella2222 Fri 12-Feb-16 14:35:25

Hi, I've been reading many threads on this topic and keep wondering about myself. I'll be 45 next month and have 8 years old boy. I read pros and cons of being pregnant at mid-40's and understand that it is not so unusual to have a baby at this age but I wanted to hear what you think of my situation.

My son is diagnosed as high-functioning autism at age 3. Luckily, he now is discharged from hospital care after a few years of language/occupational therapy and monitoring period and doing well at mainstream school both socially and academically. This made me feel more positive and wanting to have another chance to raise a child but concerned that the condition can be genetic and my second child could be having the condition that could be much more serious.

Another concern is finance. Everywhere I look on the web seem to think that parents in their 40's are financially secure - but not in my case.
Both my husband and I are self employed musicians and we don't get bonus, pay raise, holiday packages...etc., and I worry if we can afford to bring another child and could provide.

If I am already pregnant, there will be no going back, and there might not be much chance of me getting pregnant if I tried.
It's more like I don't want to regret not trying and want to do a reality check. Maybe it's lady's version of mid-life crisis?!

If you are in my situation, would try for another baby???

BikeRunSki Fri 12-Feb-16 14:43:22

I'd try. I think you only really regret the things you don't try to do.

My brother met the love of his life when she was 44 (he was 43). They tried for a baby, but it didn't happen for them.

But first think about how you'd feel about having s teenager in your 60s.

YoureMyWifeNowDave Fri 12-Feb-16 14:56:16

I'm 44 and 13 weeks pregnant with DC2 so I would say go for it grin

sepa Fri 12-Feb-16 17:01:21

My friends mum had her little girl at 45.
I think if you don't try you will regret it if you want another one!

Regarding money, you will get by somehow. Babies don't have to be cheap if your willing to not have to have brand new stuff (we have saved a fortune by borrowing stuff)
My oh is self employed so we will be surviving on stat mat pay and his income where he doesn't get holiday pay or paternity pay when it comes to the birth!

Regarding health issues, if your bubs does have autism then you will be prepared in as much as you already have the experience so it should Be easier to deal with second time!

Good luck if you do start TTC

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