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Is everybody just nervous as hell??

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Egid86 · 09/02/2016 12:29

I'm 10 weeks pregnant today. Bled at 6 weeks and had a scan to show baby was ok and could see the heartbeat. This reassured me and had no bleeding (touch wood) since. I've been discharged from epu to the normal pathway now.

I feel very sickly in the afternoon, boobs killing me, can't sleep at night, constipated and also a constant uncomfortable feeling in the evenings, not painful but like a bloated feeling. I'm sure these are all pregnancy related symptons.

But I'm so worried. Are we all just so worried? Worried about symptoms, worried when I go a day without them. Worried I'm getting carried away with myself as I'm excited. My scan is 3 weeks today and it can't come quickly enough.

Surely not just me like this?

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Junosmum · 09/02/2016 12:30

Yup. Spent the whole pregnancy terrified and kept knicker checking in case I was bleeding.

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KatyK1980 · 09/02/2016 12:38

Pretty sure everyone feels that way. I was constantly convincing myself that my lack of symptoms meant there was going to be no baby on the scan and that all 5 pregnancy tests might be wrong! The count down to that first scan was torture! Worried about every possible thing that could be wrong!

Am now 40+4 and convinced this baby will never be born! lol

Try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy, sure it will all be fine

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hebs72 · 09/02/2016 12:46

Yep, 35+5 today, and still terrified. Baby was active yesterday, quieter today (which seems to be the standard pattern), but I still worry ALL the time that something will go wrong. I think it's preparing us for the worry of parenthood

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Mslg · 09/02/2016 13:09

Yep, check toilet paper for blood after every wee. Although, my anxiety has eased since having my scan.

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boredofchangingusernames · 09/02/2016 13:28

I'm 5 weeks and it feels like I'll be waiting a lifetime until the first scan. I feel like I can't get too excited just in case anything happens. I'm constantly googling symptoms and wondering why I'm only experiencing sore boobs and nothing else. I've never wanted to skip forward a few weeks so much in my life!

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Sophia1984 · 09/02/2016 13:38

Yep - almost 15 weeks here, had a perfect scan, very low Downs Syndrome screening risk. Still checking toilet paper and worrying. Once we get past our 12 week scan, we worry about the 20 week scan, then about baby being premature, etc etc. I think the answer is to find a way to live with the anxiety, because nothing is certain in life. If the anxiety is really getting you down and getting in the way of your life, you could see if you could get a referral to the perinatal mental health team.

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Mslg · 09/02/2016 13:52

I think it helps to get plenty of rest, look after yourself and do things you enjoy or things you find relaxing. I'm enjoying having warm baths and meditating which helps me a lot.

You will have days where your symptoms are worse than others and it's nothing to worry about. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage and this time around I've just been taking each day at a time. Otherwise I would drive myself crazy worrying about things which may never happen.

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cheekstime · 09/02/2016 14:21

Hi Egid86 Totally normal, it's a horrible wait for that first scan. From what I can remember symptoms do change a bit, go a bit then come back again. I also had a small bleed before the scan which added to the anxiety. Try your best to keep the sysmptoms of the stress down by eating as well as you can, even if you can only manage snacking and being aware of your breath - nice & calm breaths if anxious. Congratulations and all best for couple weeks time.

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whiteychappers · 09/02/2016 14:44

Your post has just cheered me up Egid86 . I am feeling exactly the same at 8 weeks. I've suffered from anxiety pre- pregnancy so can't tell what a normal level of anxiety is. I've stopped reading so many pregnancy books, its making it so much worse :-)

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Egid86 · 09/02/2016 15:00

Thanks everyone for responding. It makes me feel a little more human. I've found that the app opia as recommended by MN has been really useful as it drip feeds little bits of info day by day so I'm not reading ahead and worrying, more like 'oh yeah I do feel like that actually'

Work have been great and really supportive, and so has my saint boyfriend even this morning after I knocked over a bottle of orange juice on the floor and cried for half an hour from my lack of sleep.

Much of the time I'm excited and happy so it's not all doom and gloom. But then I feel guilty for getting carried away with myself. Daft isn't it!