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Help!!Any opinions welcome

(5 Posts)
Clarescar22 Thu 04-Feb-16 10:44:51

Don't really know how to word this.
But basically I have a 2.5yr old daughter I've found out a month ago that I was expecting and am now about 9/10 week this is to a different partner in the last week we have split and there is no chance we can be together. I'm the mean time me and my daughters dad have always got along and he's admitted he's feelings for us and wants us to be and family and give our daughter the best. He doesn't want me to have the baby and says he couldn't be by my side and watch me have someone else's baby. I'm so torn and don't know what I should do.

HixieRice Thu 04-Feb-16 10:52:05

He sounds like the kind of person who will impose a lot of 'conditions' on your relationship...is that right?
What are your own feelings about the baby? If you get back together then split up again, would you regret not keeping it?

Clarescar22 Thu 04-Feb-16 10:57:31

I totally understand that. I've explained that if it wasn't to work then would that have been fair for me to have done what I did.
In regards of the baby am 50/50 cos people are messing with my head so I really don't know what to do. Cos I do feel for him its propa messing me up

OhShutUpThomas Thu 04-Feb-16 10:59:20

Well it's all about him isn't it hmm

He sounds like a self centred twat. He's not bothered about your feelings at all, he doesn't want to be back with you because he loves and respects you as a person with your own desires, opinions, and body autonomy - he wants to be with you because he thinks it might be nice for him.

But as your unborn child doesn't fit in with his wants, he'd quite like you to conveniently get rid, ta very much.

I hope you make the right decision.

PurpleDaisies Thu 04-Feb-16 11:00:40

You need to take some time on your own and think about whether you want to have another baby. No one should be messing with your head, and you're the only one who should be making that decision about what happens to your body. You could talk to your GP, or a counsellor, or a trusted friend who won't try abc push you one way or the other.

Might your post be better in relationships? MNHQ can move it if you want.

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