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Is anyone else finding pregnancy really hard?

(50 Posts)
Heavenscent86 Wed 03-Feb-16 20:56:17

It has just seemed to be one thing after another and I'm really looking forward to reaching the end of it now. I don't think it was so difficult first time round. Feeling a bit low tonight sad

lfitzgerald100 Wed 03-Feb-16 21:00:20

Aw I'm feeling you! How far along are you? I'm 37 weeks with my second and I don't remember it being this hard the first time round!

I'd say, at least it will be over soon but I've heard that so many times already it's really starting to piss me off! Lol

Just relax with a cuppa, put your feet up and have some cake! Lol

Heavenscent86 Wed 03-Feb-16 21:07:28

I'm 31 weeks. At least the end is in sight now! Cake seems a good plan. I may have to try that tomorrow as I don't have any in confused That wasn't very forward thinking of me. I won't tell you it will be over soon then haha. I get that already!

Shanster Wed 03-Feb-16 21:28:09

Yes!!! This is my third and the other 2 were dead easy. This time around I've been really sick and tired. Only 9 weeks gone too, much more fun ahead!

vodkaredbull Wed 03-Feb-16 21:41:43

38 weeks with every niggly complication you can think of. Going in for induction on Friday thankfully.

I've hated being pregnant!

Thenightswatch Wed 03-Feb-16 21:49:54

Yes sad I'm 35 weeks, third baby, my first two were easy, but this time I have a 2yo and 1yo and I'm just exhausted all the time, and so sore from trying to keep up with them all day! Not long to go though, can't wait to feel half normal again.

Champagneformyrealfriends Wed 03-Feb-16 21:58:38

30 weeks and I've had enough now. I'm not used to being so immobile-I genuinely don't know how anybody does it whilst also looking after other children. It's exhausting!

Heavenscent86 Wed 03-Feb-16 22:03:39

I'm so glad I'm not the only one struggling although sorry to hear others are as well. I can't wait to have my baby here safe and sound and finally stop feeling sick.

lfitzgerald100 Wed 03-Feb-16 22:25:32

Oh to feel normal again! I've got an appointment with my consultant tomorrow and hoping to get a date for my section so I really have a final date to look forward to!

Good luck vodkaredbull with your induction!!! Let us know how you get on when you get a chance!

I've just been counting how many more days of school runs I have left to do and it's a relief to know it's not that many, can't handle the 40 min round trip twice a day with spd on top of this watermelon! Lol

HumphreyCobblers Wed 03-Feb-16 22:29:48

I have to say I hated being pregnant, especially the last time. I don't think I enjoyed a single minute, it was like a nine month endurance test. When my consultant brought my c section forward by five days due to my severe SPD I honestly could have kissed him!

It is a good job newborn babies are so gorgeous.

Peanutbutternutter419 Wed 03-Feb-16 22:38:05

I've definitely had enough! I'm 32 weeks and still being sick with constant nausea! Just completely fed up of it now. At least with my first the sickness stopped at 6 months but this time it is relentless!
I can't wait to struggle through the sleep deprivation and breastfeeding troubles compared to the hell of pregnancy! So no OP you are definitely not alone!!

Impatientwino Wed 03-Feb-16 23:02:58

I'm 34+2 with DS2 and I'm so done being pregnant! Baby is measuring huge and I'm so uncomfortable already confused I'm breathless chasing my 3 yo and bending down/playing on the floor is becoming an issue and let's not even mention my pelvic floor

We lost a baby before this pregnancy and it's made me so anxious the whole time. Can't wait to have him here safe and sound, I'm done with worry and uncertainty, not that it stops when they're born but you know what I mean.

He's arriving by ELCS at 39 weeks for reasons I shan't bore you with so I'm on proper countdown now with less than 5 weeks to go!

whitelisbon Wed 03-Feb-16 23:10:38

I'm 35 weeks, this is number 5, and I've well and truly had enough now.
I've got 2.3 yo twins to chase, which really isn't helping, saw my consultant today to get a date for c-section, and it's still 4 weeks away angry He refused to do it any earlier, even though I can hardly move due to SPD, the morning sickness still hasn't stopped, I have severe insomnia, and all the rest of the niggles.

If one more person not looking at you, DH, in the slightest tells me "It's not long to go now", I will not be held responsible for my actions.

Just want it over with now, so I can start to get back to normal.

zannyminxoxox Wed 03-Feb-16 23:12:10

I dislike pregnancy and all the symptoms it brings only things I look forward to are movements and hearing or seeing him on scan/doppler. The rest of pregnancy is one anxious, painful, uncomfortable waiting game roll on 40 weeks.

zannyminxoxox Wed 03-Feb-16 23:15:40

Im with you on the bot long now Im 32 weeks tomorrow been getting it for ages. You can say that to me when Im in labour not before 😆

hangingoutattheendofmywick Wed 03-Feb-16 23:26:20

I loathed both my pregnancies - absolutely hated them from start to finish - and had antenatal depression in second. Allow yourself to accept you're feeling shit and that is fine. Don't try and force yourself to feel this wonderful feeling you've heard about. It doesn't make you a bad person or a bad mum. And ask fur help if you need it. I think the problem is we expect to feel so wonderful being pregnant and it isn't the case for some. Hugs to you.

Heavenscent86 Thu 04-Feb-16 07:14:17

Thanks for the hugs hanging. I can relate to so much of what people have said on here although I am very thankful that I don't have spd as so many of you do. I have to keep reminding myself of the end product. A precious new baby and my first cup of tea in forever grin
Vodka good luck with your induction. That really isn't long to wait although I'm sure you don't want to hear that!

jbiscuits Thu 04-Feb-16 07:27:35

Can I join (although very jealous about how far along you all are!)? I'm only 23 weeks and really struggling with hip pain and just feeling low in general. DS(1) is 19 months and also really hard work at the moment.

Thanks for giving me somewhere to moan!

WeeseKeysAreThese Thu 04-Feb-16 07:31:22

Pregnancy is hard, I've hated being pregnant both times and will never ever do it again. Currently 31 weeks with twins (who are measuring 2 weeks ahead) and I'm frigging knackered. Off to GP this morning to plead for a sick note for nagging SPD and sciatic pain.

Peppapigallowsmetoshower Thu 04-Feb-16 07:37:14

26 weeks here. It's mostly running around after toddler I'm finding hard. Lifting on and off the toilet, bending for shoes, getting him dressed, in/out car. Playing in the park/soft play leaves my back sore and aching legs. Sleeping is now becoming elusive, I forgot the pregnancy insomnia sad

ProbablyMe Thu 04-Feb-16 07:47:07

I'm with you too. I'm 25 weeks and it's hard work. Admittedly I'm 41 now and my last child was 12 1/2 years ago but I really underestimated how hard it was going to be. I get breathless walking upstairs or getting dressed (just diagnosed as anaemia so hopefully iron tablets will help that), I've been getting bouts of tachycardia which my consultant says is just a pregnancy thing, I've been getting terrible restless body syndrome (like restless legs but all bloody over) most evenings which drives me potty. I'm sick of getting up to go to the bloody loo and my pelvis is getting sore. This is a very wanted baby - we lost our last baby at 16 weeks - but blimey it's hard work!!

Mermaid36 Thu 04-Feb-16 07:50:13

Yes! 15+1 with twins and I've had everything.... morning sickness, 24hr nausea, sciatica, insomnia, breathlessness, lack of appetite, headaches....

I can't believe I've got at least 20 more weeks of this to go....

jbiscuits Thu 04-Feb-16 07:56:56

probably I an very glad I live in a bungalow with no stairs to contend with at the moment.

Anyone else struggling to get excited about having the baby? I remember last time round being really excited about having DS, which made all the pain and niggles bearable. This time, when I'm not wondering if getting pregnant again was a good idea (which I then feel hugely guilty about), I'm worrying about how I'm going to cope with a newborn and a toddler sad

Heavenscent86 Thu 04-Feb-16 08:26:50

I couldn't honestly say I'm excited. I'm looking forward to meeting the baby, I enjoy choosing things for it and feeling it move but I'm not excited about it. I think because I feel so ill and exhausted all the time and I'm so worried about something going wrong still I can't quite imagine having the baby at the end of pregnancy. It's hard to get excited about something that feels like a bit of an abstract concept. And yet I want the baby so much. Sorry if that doesn't make any sense.

whitelisbon Thu 04-Feb-16 08:29:18

jbiscuits Yes, I'm really struggling to get excited this time round. The thought of a newborn and two 2 yo's is giving me nightmares, especially as DH works looooong hours, so it'll be just me and the kids most of the time. Doesn't help, I think, that this one was a surprise, and, although it's very much wanted, I'm really not sure just how I'm going to cope. Feel guilty all the time at the fact I can't do much with the toddlers now, even getting them in and out of the car is a struggle, and I can hardly walk so can't chase them round a park or anything.
Don't think anyone nearby quite appreciates just how much I'm struggling sad

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