41 want another baby - too old?

[Buster6667]

I'm a mum of 8 wonderful children (all with my hubby) and would really like one more lol But at the age of 41 am I really too old? I still feel 21 but the risks of something going wrong is worrying. My eldest dd is 22 and the youngest dd is 2!

[quicklydecides]

I'm 41 and broody as hell so I'll watch what replies you get...
I'm telling my brain that it's too old especially since I have 4 already,
But I can't seem to get through to my heart.

[Hawest1]

There is plenty people older that have managed to successfully have children (mind u most seem to be celebrities!! Lol) I think if u feel fit & healthy & like u can handle one more then u should atleast look into it, ask to speak to a doctor or someone about it all so u r well aware of everything but really i wouldn't say u r 'too old' ☺️

[BisherBasherBosher]

Nope, not too old. Loads of people have babies in their 40s now.

[FoxgloveStar]

Risks are higher as you get older but you need to spend some time weighing these up yourself. Have you talked to a doctor for advice?

[Fifi10]

I'm impressed at 8 children, I thought I grew up in a large family of 5 kids. My DM had her 5th child at 43, with a gap of 15 years so nope don't think you are too old at all!

The only downside was that the doctors were obsessed with her having an amnio due her age putting her in a higher risk category (she refused), and they also pushed for induction when she went past 40w (again she refused). Youngest brother is now 12 and like any other 12yo.

[Buster6667]

Haven't spoke to my Dr. ...lol only ever see him when I'm pregnant! My head is telling me to count the blessings I already have and that I've been so lucky and not suffered any MC's and have perfectly healthy children....but my heart is telling me we could easily manage one more....I'm actually yearning for another lol

[Sometimesithinkimbonkers]

Put a child with disabilities in a mix of 8 then it's really going to be hard work!!!! I've got 3 and DS2 is 6 and has rare gene mutation so lots of disabilities.... Still in nappies and needs full care.
But then you have had a good run with healthy kiddies..... I dunno.... I'd be counting my blessings but it maybe the only reason I'm not broody is because I have a massive 6 year old baby!!!!

[Maurice169]

Go for it! I'm 46 and having no. 3.
Good luck!

[YoureMyWifeNowDave]

I'm 44 and having no. 2

[notfromstepford]

I'm 41 and having no.2 and so far (at 32 weeks) this pregnancy has been significantly more straight forward than my first at 37.

[brookeberry]

I'm 42 and having my first. All good so far at nearly 30 weeks

[DilysPrice]

How old is your DP? 41 is fine if your DP is a healthy 42 year old, but is unwise IMO if he's 60 (or 50 and a chain smoker).

As well as Downs etc, don't discount the increased risk of twins and the associated risk of disability and/or lengthy NICU stays. Having to juggle childcare for several younger children whilst spending as much time as possible with tiny babies in hospital would be really tough.

[greenlizard]

I had my first at 45 and we are trying for another at 46 I have had numerous miscarriages before my son which were heartbreaking but to be expected as you get older. What does your husband think?