Hi all,
Long one sorry.
31 weeks today.
My DH is a sweet guy and has really been trying, reading all the books, coming to classes and trying hard to be supportive.
The problem is he's really bad at it.
If I get mildly stressed he flies off the handle (we're nearing the end of some major renovations, the electricians have made some mid level mistakes and having had a long day it got a couple of FFS from me and a stomp about as I logged them to raise tomorrow) he went into hulk mode, moved the bed back and stomped downstairs saying that I had "triggered his male instinct to fix things" he's about as practical as a lead windsock, so I'm guessing this has come from one of the books. Earlier today I had my first day back at work after a month off, over half of which I spent in hospital, I've heard a lot about how stressful it was for him, and how little he could do when having to visit me almost every day (I probably would have minded him skipping days less if he'd brought me more than a days clothes at a time) so meeting me after work (he's a freelancer and normally works from home but we had no power today) he told me how tired he was and how little he got done, he had his laptop and internet, his blog went up, I don't understand the issue, but ok, I guess being outside can be tough on an introverted person, but I was shaking with exhaustion at the time, and still had an antenatal class to get to, he made me promise to get an uber home rather than he bus, that counts as consideration right?
Anyway, the crux of my issue is this, we're hoping to do hypnobirthing, he's supposed to be he strong one for that, handle the questions, help me feel safe, that kind of thing, I really don't trust him to do that right now, am I being too harsh, will he step up?
Help me please mumsnet, you're my only hope.
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MotherKat · 25/01/2016 23:31
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