Feeling tired, emotional, overwhelmed and scared....(3 Posts)
I'm in a bit of a state at the moment, trying to get to grips with everything that's got to happen over the next few months is really stressing me out. I'm 17 weeks pregnant with dc2. Me and dp don't live together yet and we are desperately trying to find a decent house and get sorted before I'm too big to move! Dd1 is 4 and I struggle every time dp has to stay at his place for any reason. He is normally here with us but once or twice a week he has to stay at his for work reasons. This was fine a month or two ago but now for some reason I panic and stress when he's not here, especially if I have worked the next day. I'm not sure if it's tiredness or pregnancy hormones or what but I feel like I'm putting too much pressure on him to be here all the time and I'm starting to feel like I'm letting him down by needing him too much or not wanting to be on my own.
I'm also worrying about how things will be when the baby arrives, if I'm exhausted already how am I going to cope when it's here? Dd1 currently goes to her dad's once or twice a week and we get the chance to relax and do our own thing, something that isn't going to happen once we have the baby. Dp is very supportive and is really happy about the pregnancy but I'm not sure if he really understands how unbelievably exhausting it is having a new born, and a 4yo as well! I am happy to be having another baby as well but part of me is wondering if just me being pregnant and knackered is going to damage our relationship. We're already being short with each other, which was really rare previously, and I know he's getting frustrated by lack of sex, though he would never say. All this stress is just making me want to cry all the time.
I feel like my life has just been put on hold somehow just by being pregnant and having to move house.
Sorry for the long post, needed to vent I think!
Take a big breath! It'll all be ok! It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed by everything. I'm also considering buying a house before baby comes, but I'm trying to take one step at a time, so all I'm thinking about right now is my scan on Tuesday. After that I'll move on to the next thing. I don't have any older children so can't give advice about that, but it sounds like the sudden onset of anxiety and stressing could be pregnancy hormones. My partner and I are also quite short with each other - I think it's cause we're both nervous but not great at expressing it! Have you talked to your partner about how your feeling? xx
Thank you for the reassurance, I feel like an emotional mess at the moment... I thought the 2nd trimester was meant to be easier!
As i was writing the above I realised I should really be taking to dp about this as well...
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