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Overly broody(6 Posts)
Hi everyone I'm new to this I'm 21 and I know a lot of you will say very young and years ahead of me but I have always been very maternal I've been with my partner for 2 & 1/2 years we have a lovely big 3 bedroom house we both have well paid jobs and planning a baby weve spoke about it since almost day 1 and we are so ready but we have two holidays one over valentines a mini cruise to France and one I turkeys for 2 weeks in June and because of this we have really spoke about it's said we won't try until after holiday incase anything happened being away from home etc but I literally can't cope feeling like this for another 6 months baby is on my mind 24/7 we always speak about it I read books forums everyday is this normal any way to redirect my mind ?
I'm sure a lot of people will say you are too young but IMO if you feel ready then do what you want!!
It's only another 6 months, these children will (hopefully) be with you for the rest of your life! Why not just enjoy the summer and your holidays without worrying about not drinking or what you can and can't eat etc? It may seem difficult but once you get pregnant and your baby is in your arms it was all seem like a distant memory. I know how hard it is seeing babies and pregnant people when that's all you want but your time will come...your only 21!
On the other hand, the chance of something happening when your on holiday is slim and if it does you just deal with it. You can't put your life on hold!
On the other hand (yes I have 3 hands...) you have no idea how long it will take to get pregnant. For some it happens immediately but for others can take months and months so bear that in mind. Also what does your dp think? It has to be a joint decision in my mind. I was ready for ages before dh said we could go for it, it is still one of those memorable dates in my mind (like when princess Di died) and it took 4 months from there and I am not old!
I was in your position, feelings wise, at 20....although still living with parents, we had been together for 2 years too. We did try because it was all I could think about and was taking over my life and like you was very maternal etc., I finally felt like I was getting over it and spoke to my DP and he felt the same about waiting until we had a house and I had finished my degree, little did I know I was already 8 weeks at this point.
I'm now 26 and 22 weeks preg with 2nd DS. I was exactly the same again, couldn't stop thinking about it, on forums everyday, even looking at baby clothes and how I would decorate a baby's room. My DP wanted to wait as we had a few debts we wanted to clear. I finally come round to the idea of waiting as I knew I couldn't change his mind anyway....again I was already 5 weeks at this point!
I would definitely say if you feel ready and so does your DP then you certainly aren't too young. My DS started school in September and he is a very much loved, happy, healthy and clever little boy. I wasn't one for going out anyway, I don't feel like I missed out on any of that. Both my DP and I work full time now, I carried on and got my degree (which helped me get my job) we bought our 3 bedroom house and we both drive and have cars. Having a baby young didn't stop us.
We had just booked a 3 week holiday to Cuba the day before I found out I was preg with DS1, I was 17 weeks by the time we went, I wouldn't say it ruined my holiday, the only thing that was different was that I wasn't drinking and was being careful about what I ate. We have still managed to travel quite a bit since.
I would talk to your DP and explain that you feel like its taking over your life and you don't want to wait any longer. That is if you don't mind being preg on holiday? He might not feel the same but you won't know until you speak to him.
Sorry went on a bit there didn't I!
Thankyou for both your comments make me feel better , he's happy to try now but he knows how much I can worry so says lets go for it if I'll not freak out on holiday I don't drink anyway so that's not a problem like we've got the house money paid jobs etc so it really feels like what's right and I know 6 months will come by quickly but at the same time feels like ages away
I don't think ages should come into it. I believe that regardless of your age, where u are in you life should drive your decisions. If you guys are committed to your relationship, can afford to have a child and both want this - then go for it!! From someone who took years to conceive, you need know how easily it will come so do what you feel.
Age isn't a relevant factor at all- I didn't feel settled until 32 and it took another 2 years to find a bean that would stick! Then found out I was pregnant the week before we went to Cuba and while I was super careful while we were away, honestly I think a very chilled few weeks (away from Google) did me the world of good. Looking back, if things had been different I would have loved kids earlier- it would probably have been easier for my career and energy levels if not finances. Good luck!
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