40+3 weeks stresses(5 Posts)
So my due date has been and gone, I'm a young first time mum and I live with my partner about 4 hours away from my mum and dad. My mum came up the night before my due date and stayed for three nights till Friday, now don't get me wrong I completely appreciate and love my mum and everything she does for me, I appreciate that she has driven a long way to see me and this is probably why it makes me feel so bad but when she told me that my dad was thinking of coming the following Tuesday I just felt a overwhelmed by it. I feel like I wanted more alone time before baby comes with my partner and I want to be able to lie around in my underwear and clean the house and watch rubbish on TV ect ect. I just felt a bit like my personal space was being invaded. Besides I'm on MAT leave but my partner goes to work during the week so if my dad was to stay round it would be a squeeze with both of them getting ready to travel to work in the morning (my dad was going to stay round because he has work about an hour from my house) AND I could go into labour, hospital, at any time... I just feel like I want some space to be able to get everything in order before baby, it's not because I don't want to see my parents, I do, and I want them to be a part of my life and my baby's life... now my mum left really upset and its going to be even worse when she tells my dad that I don't want people staying over until the baby is born. My partner thinks I am being horrible and I feel like a horrible person... I just don't know if what I'm feeling is reasonable or whether I AM being horrible and I don't know how to explain it to my mum that I love her and want her to be around but I just feel like having some personal space at home with my partner right now.
I would just tell them that you love them and love them bring around but that you want some quality time with your partner before the baby arrives and things get busy, just to enjoy the last few days being just the two of you. My husband and I lived with my parents when I was due and moved out when our DD was four months old. They were thankfully good at giving us some space and also we went out for dinners and lunches before our DD arrives, like going on a few dates.
Thank you!! Think the overdue pregnancy emotions aren't helping me deal with this situation either haha
Don't feel bad. Your mum came to spend time with you before the birth and look after you. Your dad wants to use your house like a travelodge. Different! It's selfish and in no way designed to make labour less stressful for you. Stick to your guns.
That's true... mum has since discussed with dad and explained it's a stressful time for me and my partner and I've sent my mum flowers to say sorry so it's all ok :-) just need baby to come!
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