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Unexpected pregnancy

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Nicksy33 Wed 06-Jan-16 09:35:01

Hi wise parents...
I have just found out that i am pregnant despite using the mini pill. I already have a 15 month old so i am feeling rather nervous and unsure about the whole thing. I have a loving and supportive partner who is excited about the prospect of another baby. We had planned on another baby but not until next year as we are due to get married this year.

I feel so bad for even feeling disappointed. We have a fantastic little boy who has been a dream but we had so many nice things planned for this year, we would have to postpone our wedding and i wanted to move jobs. Am i selfish for feeling disappointed that i cant do those things?

If i didnt go through with the pregnancy is it going to cause problems for us? Would be even still enjoy all of the things im looking forward too? Im really unsure how I'd cope with 2 kids right now as even though my lb has been great i have struggled with the changes to my life.

Has anyone else experienced these feelings? Not sure how to proceed

OddSocksHighHeels Wed 06-Jan-16 11:13:44

There's nothing wrong with feeling disappointed that you might miss out on things and it doesn't make you a bad or selfish person at all. It's a completely valid way to feel.

None of us can know if a termination would cause problems for your relationship (and on the flip side whether another baby would cause problems) - does your DP know how you're feeling?

BPAS are fantastic at giving you some time to talk it through with them and reach the right decision for you, you can get a telephone appointment if that's easier for you.

Do you feel swayed more towards having another baby or towards ending the pregnancy? Neither choice is wrong, you can only do what is right for you at this time.

There's a board on here for Pregnancy Choices as well. If you want to get it moved over there then report your OP and MNHQ will move it for you.

Best of luck in reaching your decision flowers

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