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Early private scan - no baby

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AKP79 Wed 23-Dec-15 12:35:52

By my calculations I should be 8w5 today. We had a private scan this morning and the lady said my womb was tilted backwards so things were hard to see, but that the sac was probably empty and there was either a second sac present or an internal bleed. Waiting for internal scan tomorrow. In a bit of a worried mess and don't really know what to think or do.

Holly34 Wed 23-Dec-15 12:56:19

I am sure it will be fine you still have another chance tomorrow worrying will not change anything. I am put off by scans personally. Once they found the baby reduced in growth from the stomach area, when speaking to a midwife she said the hospital (UK) was reacting OTT (midwife in Sweden) and at 20 weeks they could not make such a statement. I never went for a follow up because I believed in my instincts. My advise for you remain positive and think about seeing the baby for the first time tomorrow brew If the news was bad she would have given it to you and not keep you in worry and suspense over night.

Take a nice bath and paint your nails flowers look forward to the appointment tomorrow.

free hugs

AKP79 Wed 23-Dec-15 14:19:51

Thank you for the reassurance. I've just dropped my 4 year old off at his dad's because he's spending Christmas there until Boxing Day (long story and not my choice) so feeling very emotional today.

Had a booking in appointment with the midwife today which I decided to attend. She's basically echoed what you've said and was furious that they didn't have an internal scan facility available and that they've sent me home in this state.

I stupidly asked the sonographer what her thoughts were on it and she has said that her gut feeling wasn't good, so not feeling positive for tomorrow.

MissClarke86 Wed 23-Dec-15 15:03:09

I'm in a similar situation. Thought I was about 8 weeks but the scan dated me at 6, they saw a sack and yolk but no baby. I'm going back for another scan on the 29th (they needed to wait 2 weeks to see if there was any growth) but I'm feeling very pessimistic as the dates don't add up and I no longer feel pregnant.

I hope all turns out well for you. It's a stressful time but I've consoled myself with the knowledge that there's nothing I can do to change anything, and what will be will be. If it's the worst outcome, at least we know we can get pregnant and can try again.

Thinking of you tomorrow.

AKP79 Wed 23-Dec-15 15:43:49

Sorry to hear you're having a similar experience. It's such a horrible thing to have to wait out. I feel the unknown is worse than knowing and being able to deal with it.

Carriemac Wed 23-Dec-15 15:49:03

those private scans are unethical in my opinion, please dont worry it may all be fine

delilabell Wed 23-Dec-15 16:26:28

I had a bit of a bleed at 6weeks 5 days and the scan showed just the sac. They did an internal straight away and they could see the embryo with besting heart.
I'm 20weeks today so their is hope. I have heard things about private scans boy being very supportive before and im sorry you've witnessed it first hand . X

AKP79 Wed 23-Dec-15 17:19:16

Thank you ladies, I will try not to worry too much until I know what is what for definite. Starting to think I've had a reduction in pregnancy symptoms, but don't know if that's my mind on overdrive...

Carriemac - that's exactly how my midwife felt. The only reason we had the scan is because I wanted to check all was ok before we told family on Christmas Day.

DisneyMillie Thu 24-Dec-15 07:51:24

I really hope everything is ok. I've had both good and bad outcomes this year but just wanted to give some hope and say I have a tilted womb too and it can make scans tricky. In fact with this (good outcome) pregnancy they nearly missed baby even with an internal so I wouldn't discount things on an external just yet flowers

AKP79 Thu 24-Dec-15 08:09:37

Thank you and lovely to hear you've had a good outcome. I've not been able to sleep worrying and I've convinced myself my pregnancy symptoms have disappeared. I'm not holding out much hope for today.

Moving15 Thu 24-Dec-15 08:22:44

I have had a similar experience with no babynon a scan one day and a 9 week baby there the next. It was very poor care for them to send you home yesterday without a proper examination you poor thing! Good luck today x

AKP79 Thu 24-Dec-15 09:14:13

Thank you Moving15 x

sepa Thu 24-Dec-15 09:35:37

Thinking of you OP. What time is your scan?

AKP79 Thu 24-Dec-15 09:50:10

Thank you. 10.40, so not long to wait now.

y0rkier0se Thu 24-Dec-15 09:52:19

Good luck OP

prettyflowers111 Thu 24-Dec-15 10:42:02

You're probably in or at the waiting room now, thinking of you xxxx

sepa Thu 24-Dec-15 10:57:50

flowers

Threesquids Thu 24-Dec-15 11:08:33

Good luck op x

AKP79 Thu 24-Dec-15 12:01:19

Thanks for your support everyone. Gestational sack measured 9 weeks, but confirmed we lost the baby at 6 weeks. We now have to decide next steps.

prettyflowers111 Thu 24-Dec-15 12:05:43

Oh hunny I'm so sorry to hear that sad big hugs and stay positive. You need to do what's right for you. So sorry you're going through this

LexieSinclair Thu 24-Dec-15 12:07:07

I'm so sorry to hear this AKP. What a horrible time for it to happen. Exactly the same thing happened to me a few years ago, also at Christmas.
Thinking of you. flowers

sepa Thu 24-Dec-15 12:38:01

I'm really sorry to hear this AKP

AKP79 Thu 24-Dec-15 22:18:01

just so confused about what to do and which method of miscarriage to go with.

RNBrie Thu 24-Dec-15 22:21:30

Oh christ op, I'm so sorry. What terrible news and you have to face Christmas tomorrow with this decision hanging over you. How shit sad

LexieSinclair Thu 24-Dec-15 22:58:12

Well everyone is different and has their own idea about what's right for them. I didn't want to wait for nature to run its course, I wanted the whole thing over with so I could move on so I went for a D&C.
Do you have any feelings about what might be right for you? X

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