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Long Post.. miscarriage & man troubles

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sjd114 Thu 17-Dec-15 23:05:23

Hi all.

Not sure if it's the right place to post this, apologies if it's wrong.
My story
(AUGUST) I got pregnant very quickly, (v.happy) then noticed a little spotting at about 5/6weeks.. went for early scan, nothing there, other than the sac. They had said I'd had a m/c . Took blood etc, Then asked me to come back in a few days to check levels and to see what they were doing..
My levels were still very high, so they had to re-scan (broke my heart) it was internally, which made me feel absolutely vile. sad they then said that the sac had grown, and was just earlier on than first thought.. and had a 50/50 chance of baby developing. Didn't know how to feel. . Went home, started bleeding again, went back to epu and they scanned AGAIN and told me it was a mc. I was numb, had to take the medication, that failed, so scanned internally once more! sad and sac was collapsed so needed the medication again.. This time it did it's thing.

But.. we thought I was pregnant again last week.. 9 days late, nausea.. AF came.. absolutely devistated I was so sure.. as was oh. But now; I think it's probably me being selfish, but oh just keeps making excuses when it comes to sex.. just not interested.. but will happily watch porn and get himself off to that . Sorry.. lol.

Just don't know what to do.. He wanted to try again as soon as AF had gone.. its been 4 days; nothing.

I feel ugly, unwanted & just plain shite if I'm honest.
I've tried talking to him.. but just denies making excuses.

sad sad just want to start my family.

Sorry for the rant.
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goodnightdarthvader1 Thu 17-Dec-15 23:16:17

Maybe he's finding this harder to deal with than he thought. Have you talked about the emotional impact on you both?

Champagneformyrealfriends Thu 17-Dec-15 23:24:33

Men often find these things a lot more difficult than we realise. I'm so sorry for your loss flowers

sjd114 Thu 17-Dec-15 23:26:49

Goodnight We've talked and talked and talked about it.. so many times.. We both are obviously devisated. . But we both said that we wanted to try again as soon as possible.. and I've asked him if he's sure.. and he says he's sure. I don't know what more to do?
Thank you champagne 💖

Eastend2015 Fri 18-Dec-15 09:26:48

I'm so sorry for what you've both been going through and it's rough on both of you. Maybe try and take the pressure off a little, and work on kissing/ cuddling/ massages etc. I understand the rush but you have both been through a lot and maybe just taking some time out will help. Good luck!

sjd114 Fri 18-Dec-15 10:40:57

See, Eastend I suggest the massages and he says no "get off" blah blah.. then we kiss.. but just not snog, and doesn't go anywhere. Just seem very distant. He doesn't even kiss me goodnight anymore.. sad

Eastend2015 Sun 10-Jan-16 22:59:08

How are things going now? I hope there has been some improvement flowers

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