Need a rant.

[Junosmum]

This should probably go in to AIBU but it's pregnancy related anyway.

I'm 35+5 and just started mat leave. Prior to this both OH and I worked full time and we've been renovating the house. Last in the list was the nursery and upstairs carpet. This week I've sanded, painted and glossed baby room. just got the wallpapering to do (one very small wall). Carpets were laid yesterday so our whole upstairs is currently in our living room. It's like living in a horders house.

OH played football with work yesterday and has hurt his back so has said that instead of helping me take everything back upstairs (chested of drawers, clothes, shoes, mattresses, cit, wardrobe, bookcases and all the contents) he is going to play ps4 with his friends. He only got the ps4 a few weeks ago so I understand he wants to play.

But next week is Christmas and this weekend we have lots of plans with friends.

To top it off we are sleeping on a mattress on the floor in the living room and he is complaining that I wake him up when get up to go to the loo, this is because I'm really struggling to get up off the mattress.

To top it off I have a UTI, standing and walking hurts, peeling hurts and I feel shit. Im on antibiotics. We are hosting Christmas. the kitchen is also full of stuff from upstairs and so I can't even do nice stuff in there like baked mince pies and cake.

I don't want to get mad with him but I don't seem to be able to stop it.

Sorry, rant over. Just needed to vent.

[goodnightdarthvader1]

Well, I don't think you can be mad at him for hurting his back, but you shouldn't be taking that stuff upstairs on your own! Can you ask a neighbour to help?

I'm amazed you managed to do all that tbh, I'm 31+4 and I'm knackered. I can barely get up without wheezing and needing a lie down. You should be very proud of yourself!

[Kaytee1987]

If he's got a sore back he can't help himself but he can and should ask his friends to help. Tbh I don't think you should be doing any manual work just now, this is your time for relaxing.

[AuntieStella]

It sounds like neither of you should be lifting.

But before he succumbs to the lure of gaming, why on earth isn't he bribing rounding up a couple of team mates to come and shift the biggest and most important stuff back into place?

(I put this down to him to sort out, because your current physical limitations could have been predicted ages ago. His inability to do his part could not have been predicted, and is a result of his hobby, therefore his to fix)

[sepa]

Can you ask some family members to help you? Agreed that you shouldn't be doing it yourself.
Who have you got round for Christmas? As they would probably be great people to ask as just slip in there that you need it moved so they can have dinner!

[AlohaMama]

Ps4 friends can come round and help out in return for beer, pizza etc followed by gaming. Most people are willing to help if asked the just might not think to offer.

[Lweji]

Yes, ask family and ps4 friends.
I'm sure they don't want to play in the middle of a big mess either.