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What are my chances of being pregnant?

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Emmymaybe Tue 08-Dec-15 18:14:09

So me and my fiance have been wanting a baby for a while so sex has been very relaxed but he has never ejaculated inside me because he has felt it might interfere with life at the moment and we have never planned to have a baby.
He came before we had sex but we cant remember if he urinated after but there is a more than likely chance he did.
He produces a lot of semen and pre cum as he is a body builder and has to make sure he has a lot of protein. I was on the 14th day when we had sex.

Within three days, I feel sick and dizzy but very hydrated as I have been urinating regularly but my fiance and I both feel this is because we are excited to know if we could be expecting.

I would love to know what my chances of being pregnant are before I have a test next week as I have read a lot into this and been getting different messages.
Would love to know if there are any mums that has this some experience.

Chattycat78 Tue 08-Dec-15 18:20:11

To be honest, in my experience, you don't get symptoms of pregnancy until your period is already late. This is because you need hcg to build up in your system to show on a pregnsncy test, and and its not until that has happened that you would get any symptoms. It's possible you are pregnant but of course it all depends when you ovulated. Again, in my experience, it takes having sex every other day mid cycle to give you the best possible chance. That's not to say that it can't happen from a one hit wonder of course.

Emmymaybe Tue 08-Dec-15 18:29:03

That's what we thought to start with but the more we looked into it there were women who had symptoms a few days after they had sex. I also read that you sometimes know a few days after if you feel different which I do but that's maybe because I'm excited to know.

Chattycat78 Tue 08-Dec-15 18:38:14

Hmm possibly, but I don't know whether that's really physically possible if I'm honest. Your body won't know that you're pregnsnt until the hcg is being released, which doesn't happen until after implantation. To be honest, when I was trying to conceive, I had months when I was convinced that I felt different when I actually wasn't prwgndnt. When you're trying, it can mess with your head. Of course, I'm not saying that you're not, just hang fire until you can do a test! Also with ovulating, its a misconception that everyone ovulates on cd14, even in a 28 day cycle. I Definitely ovulate later- around cd18 or 19, so if I went by having sex on cd14, it would probably not happen. Unfortunately it's a waiting game until you're due.

Emmymaybe Tue 08-Dec-15 18:45:48

ok thank you, I will wait until then.
It would just be plain luck if I was pregnant but it is possible?
Would you say around 80 - 90% possible or smaller?

jamtartandcustard Tue 08-Dec-15 19:03:23

Even if his sperm did reach and fertilise your egg it still would not implant into your uterus until 7+ days after ovulation so having symptoms after just 3 is just not possible. Plus even if the egg was fertilised it still might not implant, their could be an anomaly and so the body rejects it. It's an awful lot harder to fall pregnant then people realise. That's why Drs won't help a healthy couple until they have been trying for at least 6 months. There was a channel 4 documentary a few years ago called the great sperm race that is really interesting if you can find it.
However, there is always a chance that you may fall pregnant if you have unprotected sex. No matter how small, that chance is there and you could be that 1 in 100 (or whatever the statistic is). Best thing to do is take a test on the day your period is due.

Emmymaybe Tue 08-Dec-15 19:12:05

I was always told that no mater what, you could be pregnant if you have sex but I never know what it actually takes.
I will just have to wait and see, thank you!

Chattycat78 Tue 08-Dec-15 19:21:06

Yeah sorry but I really don't think youe chances are 80 or 90 percent- that's WAY too high. To give you an idea, the chances each cycle are roughly 20-25 percent depending on your age. However, that presumes that you are having sex every 2 or 3 days at the right times and catching the egg (and also that the sperm is going where it needs to go rather than him pulling out). It also presumes that there are no issues. As Jamtart has said, it's actually a lot harder to get pregnant than people realise, which is why they won't investigate until you have been trying for a year if you are under 35.

Brummiegirl15 Tue 08-Dec-15 19:52:44

I'm a bit confused, you say you want a baby but your partner came before sex as he felt you weren't ready yet, but you are excited to know if you are pregnant hmm

Forgive me if I've read that wrong.

Basically the only way you will know is to do a test

LouLou030783 Tue 08-Dec-15 19:58:55

No one here can u give u answers only way to know is do a test. And having unprotected sex of course puts u at risk of falling pregnant...and saying he came before sex is like saying oh but he didn't come inside.

MusicalFanjo Tue 08-Dec-15 20:14:11

Chances of pregnancy is never 80-90% you have around a 25% chance at best providing you have sex at the correct time.

I agree with PP too. 3 days is too soon for a fertilised egg to implant and cause enough HCG to create any type of symptom. Implantation takes around 11days on average.

Sharoncatastrophe Tue 08-Dec-15 20:19:08

It seems like you do want a baby, maybe this situation could give rise to a chat about trying properly?

Sadly, I think there is very little chance of you being pregnant. He didn't ejaculate inside you and there is only a 25% chance you would get pregnant if he had. So all you actually have is a couple of days of feeling rough, maybe a virus or something?

One of the toughest things about ttc is realising despite all those years of contraception and being worried about getting pregnant, it's actually pretty hard to do

maybebabybee Tue 08-Dec-15 20:20:57

You wouldnt have symptoms a few days after sex. When I was TTC I always thought I had symptoms and then boom my period came.

I think it's a psychological thing tbh.

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