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Aibu to not personally contact every person

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Aki23 Wed 02-Dec-15 15:11:35

Would appreciate mumsnetters thoughts as rather upset. After an early scan my DH and I decided to announce to friends and wider family that I was expecting. I contacted one set of grandparents and spoke to GF. Informed him and pleased that he was pleased. Asked him to tell GM who he told me was in the bath. Few days later another family member warns me that it is going round that I didn't bother to tell them. GM will not acknowledge child as they haven't been told. They are in their 90s so I will give them some leeway of my GF forgot to tell GM (although he managed to tell other family members before I got to them!) but I get the impression that she wanted a personal call. She believes herself to be a matriarch and can be very nasty and gossipy. My aunt has also gotten in on the act and called me a stirrer when I called my GM to tell her and also express surprise that GF hadn't told her. She was very annoyed that she was the last to know and I saw red and said calmly that if she didn't want to be involved that was her prerogative but I had not left them out. I'm not sure if I've done the right thing although recieved support from most of my family who contacted me as soon as they heard the Chinese whispers. Has anyone else had this? Part of me just wants to say lets not tell her when they baby is born. She has never shown interest in any other ggc. Sorry for the vent.

Pollyputhtekettleon Wed 02-Dec-15 15:37:09

God they sound live a bunch of brats. Just do your best to ignore them.

honeysucklejasmine Wed 02-Dec-15 15:39:39

Eugh. Threads like these make me grateful for my normal family.

Fuck her. If she wants to behave like a 3 year old, treat her like one.

Justmuddlingalong Wed 02-Dec-15 15:46:25

Congratulations. Don't rise to the bait. Don't stress over her petty behaviour. Enjoy your pregnancy and when your DC is born, only tell those who have had the civility to react in a normal way to your happy news. flowers

Aki23 Wed 02-Dec-15 16:26:11

Thank you posters I feel so much better with that affirmation. I've been apologising to my parents for any backlash they may receive but they have told me this pregnancy is all about me and not to worry. Although my family is not perfect I feel lucky for those who truly care

CarShare Wed 02-Dec-15 16:46:35

Maybe some of their behaviour can be excused slightly by their age but you've certainly done nothing wrong. It'll all blow over. Steer clear of them for a while and enjoy your pregnancy.

lastnightiwenttomanderley Wed 02-Dec-15 16:58:49

So you told your Grandad and asked him to tell your Grandmother? And the fact that he didn't means you're the one in the wrong...?

seven201 Wed 02-Dec-15 17:09:17

Oh gosh what a nightmare! No words of wisdom but I would be annoyed too

Aki23 Wed 02-Dec-15 18:32:23

Yep it's all rather a shame but speaking to some other cousins they had the same treatment so I know it's not me!

Aki23 Wed 02-Dec-15 18:33:48

GF may have told GM but I got the impression after my call that she expected a personal call. Mayhaps when baby is born she will be last told

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