I'm I being too fussy or nah?

[Mummyof02]

Hi all, basically my partner ( father to both our baby and our unborn) never puts any pictures of our sons on his social networking sites/apps. Yet his older son from his previous relationship he always puts pictures up. It makes me feel like he's ashamed of our sons or doesn't love them as much as his eldest son? I understand that maybe he misses his eldest son more as he sees him less but even in the time he does a lot more for his eldest son in terms of looking after him then does while at home with our sons. And of course I have no objection to my partner being a dad to his eldest son I've always been in agreement that he needs to be a dad to all three of his children but it does hurt me that he doesn't 'show off' his two younger sons like his does with his eldest. I've tried mentioning it to him but he hasn't really done anything about it, which makes me feel like it's gone in one ear and out the other. Also mine and my partner son was born with a long term health condition meaning he does look abit different then other babies and sometimes I think maybe that's why my partner doesn't want to show his son to people because of our sons disability? Also it doesn't help that my partners eldest son's mum tries to make my partner feel bad that partner only has his eldest son for three days a week? What can I do to help my partner understand that whether he's with the mum of child/children he said treat them all exactly the same? Advice please xx

[toohardtothinkofaname]

Is his eldest on social media too? If so he might just be over-compensating because of the hassle if he didn't do it. If your kids together aren't on there he knows they're not going to be offended because they're unaware whereas his eldest might feel a bit put out?

[Mummyof02]

Well the thing is my partners eldest son isn't old enough to be on social media himself as hes only a toddler ,he's only going to be three soon- should of mentioned this in the post

[Kaytee1987]

Maybe he feels guilty for not being with his eldests mum, he might be trying to prove to his fb friends that he's still a good dad to this son. It's hard to say without knowing your family, if it bothers you you should try and speak to your OH without accusing him, just say it upsets you and you don't understand xx