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socktastic Fri 27-Nov-15 21:52:44

I love my husband to bits, I really do. However, since becoming pregnant, he seems unable to just let me be. He's constantly worrying about me, checking up if I'm ok, being incredibly over protective and I just feel smothered and annoyed!

We are not lovey dovey but he has become so much so since I fell pregnant and I know he loves me and is worried about all possible outcomes. I just don't know how to even begin to broach the subject. And it's not that I don't appreciate the attention, I'm ratty and just don't have the energy to reciprocate and in turn feel guilty.

Anyone else's partner turn ultra attentive and sensitive when they became pregnant?

tinyme135 Fri 27-Nov-15 21:55:43

my partner wasn't till about 4 weeks ago. he doesn't like me walking anywhere especially on my own. but I like it means I get lifts everywhere now haha

ThomasRichard Fri 27-Nov-15 21:57:09

How about signing up to a private antenatal class that you can go to together, so that he learns how he can support your appropriately while feeling involved and informed?

MrsCrimshaw Fri 27-Nov-15 22:15:41

My OH swings from being irritated that I'm not getting 'jobs' done around the house, to being incredibly loving and supportive and checking up on me every 5 minutes. I think it's as much a rollercoaster for him as for me right now!

He is also a paramedic, and wants to deliver our baby... can't get more attentive than that ;)

novemberchild Fri 27-Nov-15 22:30:25

This will my third baby but my husband's first. He is reading all the manuals and apps and asking me if I have heard of folic acid, and working out exactly how much caffeine I am consuming.

There have been some unchristian responses from me, I am afraid to report.

teamrigby Sat 28-Nov-15 08:47:09

MrsCrimshaw - my OH is exactly the same! One minute - sit down, rest, I'll make dinner; the next - make sure the hoovering is done lol!!

socktastic Sat 28-Nov-15 11:18:12

Thanks for the replies, antenatal classes are something we plan to do but not for a while yet as it's still early. Glad to hear I'm not alone in this!!

brokencrayons Sat 28-Nov-15 20:07:48

My husband won't come near me.doesnt ask about anything pregnancy related. Not interested in feeling babies movements. Quite happy for me to lift furniture, shopping, look after our horses on my own. I would love to have an attentive and caring husband. I'm 40 + 6 days pregnant and don't drive and could go into labour at any minute, yet he doesn't rush to answer my calls or texts when he's out.

SmashleyHop Sat 28-Nov-15 20:18:17

Mine is being much more relaxed this pregnancy (it's my 4th but DH's 3rd child) When I was pregnant with our first together DH begged me to quit my job as he was frightened I would put the baby at risk. I worked as a nurse on a ward that required a lot of lifting and that was back when swine flu was every where. He wouldn't let me lift a pint of milk even. Now that we are having our third together he lets me get on with things- however he still tells me off for doing too much and he's been amazing helping me with school runs (it's quite a far walk and I have SPD) So things have calmed down.

novemberchild Sun 29-Nov-15 00:43:33

Awww, I am so sorry, crayons. Please don't lift stuff, though. And look after yourself well.

Epilepsyhelp Sun 29-Nov-15 00:54:58

broken that's really sad. Was he this disengaged before your pregnancy?

OP can you not just tell him? In a humourous way maybe if you're worried he'd be hurt?

PeppasNanna Sun 29-Nov-15 01:27:05

I would have loved this problrm when i was pregnant. Dp couldnt have cared less.

He didnt come to my 12 week scan.

I cleared out his mum's house by myself at 6 months pregnant. She passed away but he didn't do anything...

At Christmas i was 35 weeks & had to get in the loft to get the tree & decorations down. It was Christmas Eve & we've 3 older dc or i wouldn't have bothered.

The day dd was born he left the hospital after 2 hours &:was suppossed to come back but he didnt until i was discharged. I spent the day totally on my own.

My legs were swollen solid from 30 weeks as my body was struggling to cope. He didn't care. I cant recall him actually asking me if i was Ok during the pregnancy.

Should have left him then!

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