He's just started a new job so isn't entitled to paternity leave and will have only accrued 1.5 weeks annual leave.
I knew he wouldn't get paternity leave but thought he'd be able to take a couple weeks holiday. I don't know how I'll manage with him out the house the job was supposed to be weekdays but he's only been there 3 weeks and already has doing late nights and weekends. I'm just so worried
I have a similar-ish situation coming up in Jan. I'm also due my 3rd baby, but DD is 14 so fairly self-sufficient- although not by any means an adult! Then I have DS who will be 17 months.
DH is self-employed so he won't be taking leave as such- he says he will but the reality is he'll be out in the morning setting up his staff on jobs and then probably picking them up every evening too. In between he's taking work calls and emails so generally distracted. It's our livelihood so i have to suck it up, but I'd love to just have a block of time where we could bed in as a family and just adjust to the new baby.
The only saving grace is that Jan / Feb tend to be a bit quieter for him but then again last year he was busy all through.
Any chance you could get an au pair, or a mother's help? I'm due dc3 in April when the others will be 5 and 3 and DP will be working away Mon-Thurs, with no family support where we live, so au pair is my plan - the 20hrs work they can do should cover morning school/nursery runs and bedtimes, which I'm anticipating as crisis points!
If that's not an option I think you'll just have to draft in as much help as you can for the first few months - another school mum who can take 10yo to school for a bit? A friend who can take a day off work to help you out one day? Anyone who can offer older dcs play dates after school/nursery and/or drop them home?
Has he asked about taking two weeks annual leave? I really dont know anywhere that says you can only use leave once accrued - surely that would mean no one able to take annual leave within the first month or two of the holiday calendar?
penny sadly that's exactly how my workplace are - i'm due to go on maternity in march and our holiday year runs Jan to Dec - theyve said I can only take 1 week holiday prior to leave as won't have accrued ebough. Op it's worth checking if he gets any additional benefits with it, dp started a new job in October and though he won't have paternity leave his contract states a weeks paid 'maternity support leave' for all full time staff irrelevant of how long theyve been there.
I had an ELCS for DC2 3 weeks ago. I also have a 23 month old. My DH is self employed so when he doesn't work we don't get any money. He took a week off. Yeah it was hard, it's still hard now he's been back at work 2 weeks but I managed. No family help either. So I can totally understand why you're worrying with regards to the school run etc. Any family that can help you? I am managing but it has been tough, so although I hope you can find more help it is doable
It sucks, I also believe self employed dad's to be should get some leave too, mums get MA so personally think dad's should get at least 1 week in that situation.
olaf it is worth h'm asking, if you can afford it, if he could take a week unpaid leave. Or would he be able to work 2 days a week in the 2 weeks after the birth and the other 3 days as holiday? If you could get family help for those 2 days he could take the rest of the time off with you?
I feel for you, this is only our first and I'm worried about what if's!