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Just found out I'm pregnant- feel overwhelmed

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Pregasaurusrex · 05/11/2015 20:43

Me and my DH have been married for four months and have just found out in pregnant after TTC cycle 1. I know I'm very lucky, and this baby is planned, but I am so overwhelmed and terrified- please tell me this is normal!!!

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Inwaiting · 05/11/2015 20:44

it is very normal! Congratulations and enjoy the special moment between you two :)

SoniaShoe · 05/11/2015 20:46

Congratulations! Yes that's a normal feeling but just enjoy! And come and join us on the July 2016 antenatal club if you want

dcourtney · 05/11/2015 20:46

I feel exactly the same. I've been married for 6 months, this is a desperately wanted baby but now that the excitement of the positive test has died down I'm really scared, ecstatic, and nervous by turns. As far as I can tell it's totally normal.

Pregasaurusrex · 05/11/2015 20:47

Thank you- I am so overwhelmed. How have I got to 29 and no nothing about pregnancy no no's. Any idea how to keep it a secret for a few more weeks?

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EllieJayJay · 05/11/2015 20:48

Congratulations and Yes come and join us in July 2016! It's made me feel amazingly more calm!

Happened on try one for us, and almost fell of the toilet when it was positive :D and still can't quite believe it :) have taken extra tests to be sure that now show a pregnancy sign almost before I get them out of the packet :)

EllieJayJay · 05/11/2015 20:49

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2497061-July-2016-Babies

Hopefully this link will work, lots of us in similar situations I read through the threads and learnt lots and lots (and I'm 37 fast approaching 38)

Pregasaurusrex · 05/11/2015 20:51

I don't know what I need to do first! Make an appointment with a Dr I suppose?! Although I am happy, I did manage to cry this evening- not my finest moment! When did you all tell your family?

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Dogsmom · 05/11/2015 20:54

Welcome to a lifetime of worry, you'll worry about every early twinge, the two scans, whether they're moving enough, the birth, are you feeding them right, are they crying because something is wrong, will they choke on their first real food, will they fall over, will they be ok at nursery, will they be bullied at school, will they make friends, will they be ok out with friends, will their boyfriend treat them well, will they be happy at work and will they be ok giving birth to their own baby then it all starts again

Pregasaurusrex · 05/11/2015 20:55

And I am certainly known for my worrying! Any good advice on books to read? I am an information gatherer!

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ppandj · 05/11/2015 21:08

Congratulations OP! I was in the same boat autumn last year and I am sat with my sleeping 6mo DS snuggled up to me , it's normal to feel this way and you do get used to the idea!

For you, i thought Sarah Ockwell-Smith's article on the fourth trimester was good and the What to Expect book. For your DH my partner recommends "cheers to childbirth" about labour. Good luck with everything!

SoniaShoe · 05/11/2015 21:14

I quite liked the mumsnet pregnancy book for my first pregnancy. Takes you through everything you need to know and it's not too big so small enough to read on train/bath.

(I'm not a mumsnet staff member making a quick plug honestly!)

Pregasaurusrex · 05/11/2015 21:15

It was mentioned further up thread about initial excitement- I didn't have that- but maybe it was because I "knew" 100% that the test would be positive? Clutching at straws maybe? These are my first posts and it was lovely to see so much support! So thank you.

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skankingpiglet · 06/11/2015 13:04

Expecting Better by Emily Oster is good if you like the evidence to make your own choices. I was always sceptical with my first pregnancy about all these rules and blanket bans on stuff. This book gives you the reasons and stats (and made me realise I could still safely enjoy camembert provided I baked it into big gooey deliciousness first)

redstrawberries101 · 08/11/2015 19:33

Hi all! I've just had a BFP today, I tested twice with boots own brand (for a very faint line) and then clear blue digital 1-2 pregnant apparently. I feel so overwhelmed, I'm scared to tell anyone in real life in case it's a mistake. Can't wait till 8am tomorrow so I can phone the doctors and hopefully get an appt sooner rather than later. I was going to tell hubby but not sure if I will wait until I've been to the docs.

redstrawberries101 · 08/11/2015 19:40

Where is the July 2016 thread please? Can't seem to find it.

ppandj · 08/11/2015 19:53

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2497061-July-2016-Babies

Congratulations!!

Mary92915 · 08/11/2015 19:59

It's the most amazing gift God could ever give you. I'm 20 years old and have a 5 week old. I still can't believe I have someone so perfect that is mine forever. I cried so much once she was delivered... I was so happy. Also scared to hold her because she was so little. It really is amazing. I was scared also like you in the beginning... And it won't feel real for a while... But you will get to the point where you know it's really real and you'll be so excited. Tell your family when you think it's best. Congrats!!!

goodnightdarthvader1 · 08/11/2015 20:16

Chiming in to say totally normal. With DH 9 years, TTC for 6 months, one I got my BFP I was terrified (still am, and I'm over 6 months!)

redstrawberries101 · 08/11/2015 21:59

Thank you so much girls. I told hubby and he is over the moon! Xxx

anyagujraal · 09/11/2015 09:42

Congratulations!! It is completely normal to feel like that. Enjoy the pregnancyXX

franke · 09/11/2015 09:48

Congratulations and yes, it is completely normal to feel overwhelmed. When I was first pg with planned and wanted dd I felt as if dh and I had very casually strolled hand-in-hand off a very high cliff. But you will start to feel excited. I can,t recommend any books but Mumsnet is a great resource of up to date info as well as support, as I,m sure you know.

mackinnonka · 13/11/2015 22:19

Hi Pregasaurusrex! I am definitely in the same boat, got my BFP (on TTC cycle 1) on 6/11....and its been a bit of a mixture of emotions!

So far i've got an appointment with GP to confirm before I get referred to midwife, have booked a dating scan (my last cycle was a bit muddled so not really sure when to date from) and having a bit of an MOT in general, eye test, trip to Osteopath....

there is so much to think about!!

Have you told anyone yet? I'm finding it hard to keep quiet...

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Diddlydokey · 13/11/2015 22:24

He's 3 & I still feel the same

Congratulations. Happy & healthy pregnancy

RoTo72 · 13/11/2015 22:24

Congratulations

RowenaJB · 14/11/2015 15:22

Congratulations! My baby was planned but felt exactly the same! 21 weeks now and can't wait to meet him :)

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