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second pregnancy 1st was miscarrage now scared!!!

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Helphelp92 Thu 29-Oct-15 17:58:18

hi every one!!!

Im new to this site I keep googling everything so thought next thing is to ask direct question get some positivity from people!!!

In june i had a missed miscarriage i was ment to be 14 weeks but went for my first ultrasound and they said i miscarried at 8 weeks, but I knew something was wrong as all my symptoms disappeared I was constantly telling the health professionals but they diddnt listen!!.

So in july I found out i was pregnant again straight away I felt really nervous and scared, they sent me for an early scan at 5 weeks 5 days healthy sac with heartbeat, still i worried, started bleeding at 7 weeks 5 days, another scan confirmed grew and heatbeat, again still worried, went for a scan at 10 weeks again the pregnancy has grew and again heartbeat. had all the sickness and nausea up until 12 weeks then just automatically stopped, I am now 13 weeks and dont feel pregnant and my mind just wont stop thinking that something is wrong I just cant enjoy the pregnancy does this all sound normal?????? somebody helppppp

Reebok Thu 29-Oct-15 18:06:08

First of all I'm sorry for your loss. How you're feeling is completely normal. I've been pregnant 4 twice, one dd and now pregnant again. After my first mmc I was pregnant with dd and was convinced I would lose her pretty much until a little after she started kicking. This time I'm pregnant again straight after a natural mc. I'm
14 weeks tomorrow and like you have had 3 scans...each time I was convinced baby would have no heartbeat and prepared myself for the worst but each time I've been happily proven wrong. Mc takes away the innocence of pregnancy and stays with you. I'm sure your baby is fine though this time. It's a little fighter like my one. Try to take each day as it comes and remember today you are pregnant. It's what gets me through each day.

Helphelp92 Thu 29-Oct-15 18:14:25

reebok thanks for your your reply, also sorry to hear of your losses.

Its really hard alls i keep thinking is there something up, i cant get excited or start planning. But your right I need to take it one day at a time if there was something up I cant change that. Dont think i will be convinced everything is ok until I start growing and the baby kicks. But thank you feel like I cant talk to any one because im being stupid, but until you have a miscarriage you dont know how hard it is xxxx

Reebok Thu 29-Oct-15 18:30:06

Yes I completely agree with you. Unless you have been through it you can't understand it. It's a bit like the illness I have at the moment...hyperemesis. Unless you have it/had it you won't understand.
Again take each day as it comes and remember that whatever happens has happened for a reason...and in no way is a mc your fault. I see it as if I haven't lost my first baby I wouldn't have my beautiful dd. And my mcs were natures way of telling me something wasn't quite right with the babies. Will keep my fx for you. Feel free to pm me. X

Helphelp92 Thu 29-Oct-15 18:39:29

Thank you, feel a little bit better, Ive been to my doctor and they have said go the epu and get a reasurance scan but then am thinking that will make everything ok until the next time i feel unsure, so think al just take the worry keep my fingers crossed and what ever will be will be . Thanks again xx

Brummiegirl15 Thu 29-Oct-15 19:52:07

Hello op I'm 26 weeks now on my 4th pregnancy and I had 3 mcs prior to this one.

Unfortunately the fear never ever goes, I'm still terrified and I'm currently getting booted in the stomach by our baby girl. Even though I can feel her kicking merrily away without a care in the world, the crippling fear still hadn't left me.

The pp is right , mc completely changes your mindset about pregnancy and you do just have to learn to live with the fear.

But you've got this far, you've climbed those hurdles. And trust me you've plenty of time to feel rough as houses. Weeks 15-16 oh my life I thought I was dying

I'm sorry for your previous loss, but hang on in there

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