First pregnancy and worried

[Jul16BF]

Hi, all

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for over a year and, on Monday, I found out I was, medically, 4 weeks pregnant.

Of course I was overjoyed, but now I can't stop worrying that I'm going to lose it. Everything I see or feel makes me scared I'm having a chemical pregnancy, "oh, my boobs don't hurt as much" "is that a tiny spot of blood or not?". I want to look forward to it, but remain sensible but I'm not doing a good job :(

I thought I'd reach out for words of advice etc from some more level headed people!x

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

I was like this. I'm by no means a level headed person either! We had a private scan at 7 weeks just to put my mind at rest and it did for a while-then I started panicking just before my 12 week scan. The only advice that calmed me down was from my sister-she told me all I could do was trust my body. Eat well, take your vitamins and try and chill. I really hope someone comes along with some better advice but your post reminds me so much of me 12 weeks ago! I'm 16+3 now and I feel less anxious xxx

[Utterlyclueless]

Congratulations!


When I was pregnant I didn't have one single symptom literally non what so ever don't think anything bad because your boobs aren't hurting etc try and relax you might be a lucky one! I was worried too just like you.

I now have an 8 week old but I seem to have had all the symptoms after having him!

Good luck

[lemon101]

The first 12 weeks are really hard and you do worry, worry, worry.

But in my experience the following is true;

• symptoms come and go.
  
• Cramping is pretty normal
  
• You may bleed a little at odd times (like after sex)
  
• you may not have an nausea at all so don't freak out its a sign
  
• if you end up eating something not advised don't freak out. I ate barely seared scallops, rare steak, carpaccio etc etc in the first few weeks (covering my pregnancy at work dinners). Most things are only dangerous if they make you sick and if you are in a good restaurant that is a pretty low chance.
  

there is bugger all you can do if this pregnancy is not meant to happen and that is the simple truth. You are not 'responsible' for it not working out or not (well unless you are going on massive boozy benders - which I suspect you are not).

as pp said, eat well, listen to your body and sleep when you are tired, exercise sensibly and wait for these next few weeks to tick by.

wishing you the best!

[brookeberry]

Congratulations Jul!

And ditto to everything you said. Unless you are an incredibly chilled out person, it seems that worry goes hand in hand with being pregnant. Not all of the time thank goodness, but quite a bit, especially at the beginning until you really accept what's happening. A scan really helps.

Take in what's been said here. I can tell you that symptoms go up and down and al over the place. I felt nothing until 8wks - agony boobs which then completely disappeared a couple of weeks later. Nauseous all the time at 9 weeks, then fine. Worry, worry, worry. I'm now 16wks and all is fine. Also nobody experiebces exactly the same thing, but symptoms definitely come and go, and some people have none.

Try to go with it, you're doing a fine job. You're pregnant!!

[Jul16BF]

Wow, thanks guys :D that's all really helpful! Would it be weird or in advisable to have a quick look at baby things!?x

[MiniLop]

Like utterly I had absolutely no symptoms at all, so don't take that as a bad sign!
I bought my first baby item a couple of weeks after I found out, just a cute vest I'd seen. I think it's seen as unlucky to buy anything before the 12 week scan, but that's just superstitious and it's not going to affect the outcome!! My DS is 8 months now
Congratulations

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

I've bought some nappies and wipes because I work in a store where we get a week of special discounts for staff once a year and it seemed silly not to. I also got an absolute bargain baby monitor too. I've not bought any clothes yet though

[brookeberry]

I'm dying to buy things! I'm 16 weeks. I'm trying to hold out to 20 weeks, although I'm not sure why. I'm certainly doing a lot of window shopping.

[Jul16BF]

I'll Deffo hold out, but it's only sensible to work out costings...isn't it? ;)

[mamaneedsamojito]

Congratulations! In my experience being full of hormones can make you feel slightly unhinged. I found it eased off a lot after my first scan. There's nothing you can do except eat right, take your vitamins and try to relax. You body will do the rest, you can't control it so you have to trust it.

[mamaneedsamojito]

*your body

[Jul16BF]

Eating healthier is something that I'll struggle with, I think. I love my carbs and chocolate!

[mamaneedsamojito]

Nothing wrong with carbs! My DS is mostly composed of weetabix and scones