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Appreciation for our OH

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scarednoob Mon 03-Aug-15 21:43:28

I've been whining and feeling sorry for myself with GD today after a really careful day resulted in stupid high readings for no reason. OH spent ages making me a lentil dhal stuffed with extra spinach and veg. And promptly made me cry.

It made me think that we see lots of threads where a partner has done something daft or worse, so let's have some appreciation! What does your OH do to support you that is helping with being pg??

LowlLowl Mon 03-Aug-15 21:59:52

What a great idea for a thread! I'll join in. I'm all praise for my DH who has done pretty much everything around the house while I had serious first trimester exhaustion - washing, cooking, cleaning and more than his 'fair share' of looking after DS as well. He also does childminder drop offs and pick ups 2 out of 3 days. I know I am incredibly blessed to have such a supportive DH, and my heart breaks for all those people I see posting on here who are in difficult relationships. There but for the grace of God and all that.

Rosenwyn1985 Mon 03-Aug-15 22:06:19

Mine is patiently putting up with some serious hormone induced rage. I'm 37 weeks and want to bite his head off (not helped by lack of sleep). He has been amazing at just ignoring it, even when I know I'm being awful!

beehappybe Mon 03-Aug-15 22:08:16

A celebration of DHs efforts-lovely idea smile.

My DH stopped drinking with me for moral support and he buys me foods that he thinks I will like and then when I don't eat them he quietly and without saying a word either eats them or freezes them or throws them away if they have gone off (since what I like to eat now changes every five seconds...) So far he has also takes time off work for all appointment without hesitating a moment even if it means re-scheduling his entire week of planned work meetings and appointments.

DaftAda Mon 03-Aug-15 22:14:39

My DH has been a star. Since I tearfully announced I was pregnant (unexpected 5th baby) he has been really excited and carried me along with his enthusiasm. He excelled himself when after one night of camping, he booked me into a hotel for the rest of the week. I am pathetically grateful that he feeds me and let's me skive off bedtime duties if I am knackered. And he always brings me a cup of tea first thing whether or not I'm pg. Oh yeah, he's a keeper alright.

duckbilled Mon 03-Aug-15 22:19:15

My OH won't let me bend to put toddler in her carseat our carry ANYTHING! It is very sweet, but i would like to know that he thinks happens when he is at work? hmm

Gillian1980 Mon 03-Aug-15 22:19:45

What a lovely, positive idea for a thread smile

My DH has been a real gem throughout. He learnt to drive so I don't have to do it all, has been doing shed loads of DIY and decorating to get the place baby-ready, has done the vast majority of the housework etc and has generally been very supportive.

I know I've been a hormonal nightmare at times but he's put up with it with the patience of a bloody saint. Tonight he's spent the evening reassuring me as I've been very tearful (scared of the elcs in 2 days time!).

He's been chronically I'll for over a week but has kept going for my sake - including sleeping in the spare room to keep the germs away from me.

I feel very, very lucky is all I can say really.

oneyorkshirepud Mon 03-Aug-15 22:20:03

Aah lovely thread. DH told me yesterday that he kind of wishes I could just stay pregnant because he loves that I have a bump. I luffs him!! Major brownie points for that one!!!

Gillian1980 Mon 03-Aug-15 22:22:32

That should say *chronically ill.

Junosmum Mon 03-Aug-15 22:23:31

Mine's currently in Tesco feeding my ice bun craving. He's awesome. He built a wall this weekend. He's really stepped up with the housework too. And he's not been a sick about the lack of 'snuggle' time.

contractor6 Mon 03-Aug-15 22:29:51

Dh been to all appointments, freely gives back massages, mostly indulges my cravings (draws line at too many McDonalds) cooked for me in first trimester. Does the heavy housework such as hoovering stairs and emptying bins. And most importantly is nice about my parents and their involvement.

Crumbelina Mon 03-Aug-15 22:43:13

Ahh, lovely thread! I got pregnant unexpectedly (TTC for 2 long years) a couple of months after we bought an absolute wreck of a house which we plan to renovate ourselves (due to budget constraints).

He's been absolutely amazing - working full-time in a stressful office job and then spending evenings and weekends undertaking serious renovation with very little experience and no help. Not just the odd bit of painting - he's learnt plastering, carpentry, bricklaying, tiling, demolition, plumbing etc. He's really pushing himself to ensure we have some rooms ready for the big arrival in October and I'm so impressed and proud of him. smile

PerfectlyPosed Mon 03-Aug-15 22:48:41

My DP picked up on the midwife saying I needed to eat lots of sugary foods when breastfeeding and vowed to bake a cake a week. This was from about 34 weeks grin
As it happens, I was only able to breastfeed for a very short time but the cakes still came until I had to beg him to stop as it wasn't doing any good for my weight!

Crazycatlady15 Mon 03-Aug-15 23:27:50

My DP has been fantastic throughout my pregnancy and now our beautiful daughter has arrived. He was completely supportive with everything and helped out so much with the housework and cooking etc when I was unwell due to severe nausea and tiredness.

Every since DD was born last week via C section following an unsuccessful induction he has been amazing. We were stuck in hospital for four days and I ended up with an infection which was rather stressful but he was there for us every step of the way and kept going despite being utterly exhausted.

Both whilst we were in the hospital and back at home he has been absolutely incredible with DD and tends to her every need no matter what time of day, he is now an absolute pro at feeding, winding, nappy changing and all of the other wonderful joys of parenting. I am immensely proud to have him as my husband and the father of my child and love him dearly.

I only wish I could be of more help to him and DD as I am finding it frustrating and getting upset at not being able to do a lot of things but also know I need to recover properly from the section.

Thank you for starting this thread as I do think that partners get forgotten sometimes smile

MrsGentlyBenevolent Mon 03-Aug-15 23:51:15

My partner has been lovely, and I have to remind myself of that on days where he's not so helpful. Some pretty horrid PGP going on right now, some days all we do is stay in bed (he works from home), eat ice cream and watch countdown. He calls me sexy pretty much every day, despite not being able to move and turning into an ice cream whale blush. Last night he refused to let me sleep on the sofa, because he was bunged up with hayfever. However, he forgot that he should have done so instead, leading to me having very little sleep due to his snoring. So, swings and roundabouts (he did get lemon cake as an apology, to be fair).

scarednoob Tue 04-Aug-15 08:52:55

These are lovely! I think it helps to remember the great things they do when they do other things that irritate our hormones (in my OH's case, he got shouted at for the heinous enormous crime of dropping his e-cigarette and making a noise... In the middle of the afternoon...)

chelle792 Tue 04-Aug-15 09:39:04

This is an awesome thread. My OH has been amazing too. He's been researching car seats, putting up with me saying "uhhh you smell [of coffee, cereal, milk, sandwiches, anything nausea inducing....]. He's not once complained about working all day then cooking dinner, walking dog and comforting me with any meltdowns

contractor6 Tue 04-Aug-15 10:06:10

junosmum you've started me craving an iced bun! Pls tell me it was horrid?

sianihedgehog Tue 04-Aug-15 10:35:16

Mine has quit smoking AND vaping entirely, because I said to for the baby's sake. He's fixed his credit rating since we agreed to start trying for a baby and is buying a house with me - we're moving on my due date. He hasn't freaked out or lost his shit over all the stress that simultaneously quitting nicotine, buying a house, and having a baby has brought. And he's been very supportive and stood up for me about wanting a couple of weeks to settle with our baby before our families come to stay or anything.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed Tue 04-Aug-15 10:41:54

We moved a couple months ago and had one room that was basically a dumping ground. I spent the day cleaning and sorting it (did someone saying nesting) I didn't have tine to sort out dinner. He came home, gave me a big kiss and took me out for a lovely dinner. We exactly what I needed!

Glindathegoodwitch Tue 04-Aug-15 11:02:30

Not one whimper has come from my DH2B since I have been pregnant. He does everything that he can for me. I want something - he goes to get it, I haven't done a dish in months, he calls me beautiful and sexy every day, he moisturises me from head to foot in the evenings, I get foot rubs and face massages, and he makes me laugh even when I don't want to. And the thing I love the most, is I can see it in his face how much he loves me and it makes me love him even more. I am the happiest and luckiest girl in the world smile

Doublebubblebubble Tue 04-Aug-15 11:10:42

Great idea for a thread. I love my dh so much but I always forget that he's been through exactly what I've been through. Not only suffering the horror of our twin boys being stillborn... (I chose to keep my eyes closed and he didn't) I've had hg every pregnancy (I'm on my 5th pregnancy, 6th child - currently 31 weeks with another boy) we also been in and out of hospital with our 5 year old DD - asthma related problems but still horrible. My dh is a baker - he works long awkward hours but he looks after me and our beautiful bub so well. He cooks, cleans - just does everything he helped me get dressed this morning x I love him I love him I love him xxx

Cineraria Tue 04-Aug-15 13:54:24

This is such a nice thread and what lovely men they all are!

Pregnancy hormones seem to turn me into a bit of a drip and I get so exhausted, I just can't be bothered to resist people persuading me to change my mind, so the best thing is that DH always makes sure he knows my opinion and argues for it, whether it's a doctor/midwife trying to get me to agree to something I don't want or a marauding bump botherer making a grab for me when I don't want to be touched.

I had really bad indigestion from six to twenty weeks and he also used to say "Excuse me!" whenever I burped aloud in public, so people would think it was him! I think he got this idea from a comedy routine he saw on television.

kbro79 Tue 04-Aug-15 16:56:07

Ah literally sat here reading this lovely thread when my DH came home with a surprise Krispy creame donut for me!

He has also been super lovely when pregnancy sickness lasted till 30 weeks and washed up fair bit vomit when I erm misjudged the run to the bathroom.

And patiently dealt with and calmly reassured a weekly hypochondria worry from me.

dinodiva Tue 04-Aug-15 17:12:28

My DH just sent me an email at work (unprompted) to tell me that I'm going to be an awesome mum.

He also talks to my bump every night before he goes to sleep, and he calls us 'the girls' (we're having a girl). He does more than his fair share of laundry, cooking and washing up (i.e. all of it) and doesn't complain when I wallop him in the middle of the night whilst rearranging my many supportive pillows.

I wouldn't want to be doing this with anyone else.

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