Hi, I'm new here, and I'm not a parent, nor pregnant, but me and DH have now started talking seriously about family planning and we thought somewhere like this might be able to help us.
We are both 21, we are super close and both love kids. I am one of those women who wants to "have it all" and I am frustrated that society is not very enabling in that respect!
Because I still have 2 years left of my UG degree, and then to train to become a barrister I would have to study either another 1yr FT or do it PT as two years, then 1 yr FT paid training. Also, being a barrister means you are technically self-employed, so there is no real maternity leave, and no maternity pay other than SMP. Realistically if I want multiple children it will be basically impossible because to maintain a practice I can't just keep going off for 12 months every other year or something near to the start of my practice (as I don't really want to have children very late on). I also don't want to have children and put them all in full-time childcare right from the start, I want to enjoy spending time with them.
For this reason I think it makes more sense to have children BEFORE my career so that I can have some time to spend with them when they are little and not have to interrupt my private practice with huge gaps of maternity leave. However to limit the time I would have to take out of my studies/career this would mean having a few children in quick succession in a couple of years time and would necessitate being pregnant at some time during either my final year of FT UG study and then again during PT study later.
Am I living in the clouds and this would be just too much? Has anybody studied whilst being pregnant and/or with babies/toddlers? What would you do if you were in my situation? I'm too scared to talk to my mum about it because I think she will just ignore me and strongly advise that I wait until I am older and have practiced for a few years and then quit and become a SAHM because I know that is her preferred outcome for me.
Sorry for such a loooooooooong post. :(
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MeadowHay · 01/08/2015 19:53
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