Fed up and midwife made it worse :(

[natjayne213]

So fed up all the time.. I can cry and the slightest thing and really feel down. Been to see the midwife who does nothing but knock me and put me down.

My little girl was born by c-section after a difficult time and this time I want to elect a section. Yet I need to learn to deal with pain apparently like a section is a walk in the park.

Told her I am feeling depressed etc and she said oh well it's your hormones. Aren't they meant to be their to support you?

I feel completely at a loss on what to do!!

[ThomasRichard]

Make an appointment to see your GP and explain how you feel to them, they will be able to help. Also give the maternity unit a call and ask for the number of the supervisor of midwives. Give her a call and see what can be one about your MW.

[NeuroticFox1]

Totally agree with the above suggestion. You're right they should have taken you more seriously, get the support you deserve x

[juneau]

I agree - make an appointment with your GP. You should be able to expect some support, not a pep talk, and also have a reasoned discussion re: getting a c-section. Don't let unsympathetic MW fob you off. Your body, your baby, your right to make an informed choice about how s/he will be delivered.

[PerspicaciaTick]

Call the Supervisor of Midwives - she should help you explore your options positively.

[natjayne213]

Thank you I will give them a try.. I'm 24+4 now and I've already been through my options with a consultant at the hospital so I don't need her opinions.

I had really bad postnatal depression last time and I didn't admit it.. but this time I want get help.

GP is full so will need to call tomorrow for an emergency appointment.

Another MW actually came into the room and said maybe I needed referring due to my serious headaches and she told her that it is just a pregnancy symptom.

Some people are not caring enough for these jobs xx

[RockerMummy184]

What a horrible horrible woman! I once had a nurse at my surgery tell me when I was suffering from PND 'it's almost Christmas, just cheer up!' so I can totally understand how unhelpful those kinds of comments are.

As well as offering medical advise your midwife IS supposed to be there to support you. Hormones have a lot to do with how you feel during pregnancy, however, feeling down/low/depressed is not something that should be ignored and there are things that can be done to help you. CBT and counselling are available, and there are anti-depressants that can be used in pregnancy if the benefits outweigh the risk.

I agree that you should book an appointment with your GP. I also second the advice to get something done about your MW. Ask to be looked after by a different one and make a formal complaint about this one.

Hope you're feeling better very soon! x

[geekymommy]

Hormones probably do play a role in antenatal and postnatal depression. That doesn't make it any less real or less debilitating. It's not like you can turn those hormones off at will. Hormones also play a role in causing some breast cancers, but nobody would ever dream of saying that makes breast cancer less real or less serious.