Don't really know what I'm looking for by writing this, maybe just reassurance or for someone to tell me they know how I'm feeling.
So basically a few days ago my OH and I decided it would be beneficial for our relationship if we had some time apart from each other. The reason being is because we had both been arguing a fair bit and I was starting to become really unhappy, and I think he was just feeling a bit fed up and out of his depth. It's not even that anything major has happened it's stupid petty little arguments and neither of us being able to sit down and properly talk without one of us losing our temper. I am now staying with a close family friend and he is remaining at our place. We have both agreed that this isn't a permanent thing and we just need some time to focus on ourselves and just chill before the baby gets here. He is still coming to my appointments with me when he can and we are still going to meet up for lunch/dinner occasionally.
I know that this is the best thing for us and I would much rather this then when the baby gets here in September but I feel so emotional about it all. I know I'm probably just really hormonal and not used to not being with him but I'm finding it horrible :( I have always suffered from mild anxiety and I am someone who worries over nothing but I keep convincing myself that this is the end and that we won't be able to sort it out. Despite being a stress head I am someone who can normally hold it together but I keep breaking down at work and when I'm just about to go to bed or get up in the morning. I'm just scared that everything won't be OK.
I have a midwife appointment this afternoon (which he is coming to) and I know she's going to ask me how I'm feeling. I don't know whether to just accept the fact I'm being over emotional or tell her I'm upset and struggling with what's going on in my relationship.
Anyone else been or going through the same thing?
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lauraa4 · 01/07/2015 12:57
You poor thing to be going through all of this while pregnant too! 
Firstly, I would tell the MW what is going on as there may be some ante natal mental health support you could access through your hospital... Existing MH issues like anxiety do flare up during pregnancy and it happens to loads of women - you are not alone in feeling like this.
In terms of having your OH with you for the appointment, maybe he could be there for the bits that are about the baby and step outside for the bits about you? That way you can speak freely with the MW about how you feel without feeling awkward in front of him.
Secondly, would it help you to have a definitive time set on this time apart? At least a definitive time to talk - it seems a bit up in the air if you are already suffering with anxiety and maybe having a more concrete plan in place might be helpful?
You need some permanence though 
you need a stable home in which to nest and then bring your baby home to
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