I absolutely felt like that when pregnant for months. You will do it. I didn't think I would be able to but I did. The pain goes after, it's forgotten, like people say and you may even find the pains to be more bearable than you thought. You get into yourself, listen to your body and you will. I know it's overwhelming, but make sure you have support and encouragement. xx
Hi op I'm 39 weeks tomorrow and I know how you feel.
I'm larger than you and I really wouldn't worry about that side of things.
Our bodies were made for this and it may be painful but that's what the drugs are there for! I up until last week was adament I wasn't going to have anything but gas and air but now I'm not going to put that much pressure on myself and go with the flow. My pain threshold is bloody awful anyway haha.
When I'm feeling anxious about the labour I google positive birth stories and read those. Don't read or listen to horror stories. Good luck
I used a hypnobirthing thing cd and it really helped me, particularly in the weeks leading up to labour as helped me be positive and more relaxed about it. You'll be amazed at what your body can do when it needs to. I was nervous about how I would handle it being a bit of a wimp myself, but I completely surprised myself and managed it without any pain relief.
I was completely open to having an epidural and whatever else could be offered, but focussed on the fact that each contraction bought me closer to meeting my daughter.
The only thing I can really recommend is going in with an open mind, reminding yourself that there are pain relief options and that at the end of it you will have your gorgeous bundle in your arms
No I haven't had any complications I have had a text book pregnancy apart from spd and thyroid which is nothing to do with my weight. I would look at some things online the only things they say could be an issue is "bigger mum bigger baby" meaning their shoulders could get stuck but I have known 3 of my friends who are sizes 8 to 12 this year have over 9lb babies and non of them got stuck!! There's research out there that says this is just common sense and isn't guranteed to happen. Also I think there's a stigma attached the bigger women not being fit enough for birth...well we were fit enough to get pregnant...that's what my midwife told me. It doesn't make any sense, all women were made to birth babies. Fair enough if.you were 75 stone but we aren't and we can do this
I will post my birth story if I deliver before you if you want to hear it, fingers crossed it's at positive one. Im not going to lie I am nervous about the birth but not because I'm bigger but because it's my first baby!! We will be fine. Good luck
I was 98-99kg when I had my first in May. She was 8lb 2oz, so don't worry about weight correlation to birth weight. I would agree about being open to the pain relief available. I would also recommend a TENS machine. I was open to pain relief but ended up with the TENS, paracetamol and G&A (through transition). I asked for Pethidine but while the midwife went to get it I started needing to push! I went from 3cm to 10cm in about 4-5 hours. I think the key as everyone has said is being open to pain relief and remembering that the pain has a purpose. I found that while it was painful, it wasn't scary or overwhelming because I knew I had relief available and I knew why I was in pain!