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People commenting on bump size :(

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Feelingstressed444 · 28/06/2015 19:24

Hi ladies
Is anyone else fed up of people thinking they have the right to comment on your weight/bump?
I'm 33+4 and so far maintained fairly low weight gain. Although pound ku because I'm very tall and the baby positioning. So I'm managing to keep in some of my normal clothes. Even though I'm eating more than ever I'm still walking 30 mins a day so nice and healthy overall.
But recently I've noticed how many women feel like they can comment on the way I look. Sometimes I get "omg your that far gone where are you hiding the baby?" And others I get "ooh don't eat too many mars bars you'll really suffer for it after!"

Take today. I had standard size 10 leggings on with a long non maternity size 10 dress on to
a birthday lunch. I walked in and my 'friend' told me my bump was HUGE. I felt so uncomfortable and suddenly didn't feel as confident as I did when I left the house.

So now I'm sick of people talking about how long it's gonna take me to lose the weight after or just 'snap' back into shape!

Fed up now of all the bloody comments ???? thanks for letting me rant!!!

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PuddlesandMuddles · 28/06/2015 19:40

Last time around I found that I could one minute be told that I had a really neat bump and the next I'd be asked if I was sure that it wasn't twins. Basically, people are idiots that think they're supposed to say something about your bump and forget how rude they're being.

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Rosenwyn1985 · 28/06/2015 20:13

I look like I'm pregnant pretty early so constantly get comments on how big I am! I don't mind it from friends as they're just trying to take an interest but strangers it is irritating! I'm 32+3 and on holiday from work (tagged onto mat leave). The big benefit is I was so huge at work no one doubted I was feeling rubbish and I never had comments some of the other pregnant (but smaller) ladies had.

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IfYouWereARiverIdLearnToFloat · 28/06/2015 20:32

Wasn't a comment on my bump but when I told everybody at work I was pregnant a few weeks ago one woman smugly told me she'd known for a while because I had been putting on weight! I then told her I'd actually lost almost a stone because I couldn't eat & was being sick.

She then changed her story to she knew because some days I looked like I'd put on weight & others I looked slimmer. When I asked how that was possible she then switched stories again & told me I had a pregnant "aura"!

Pregnancy makes people think they've got free rein to make stuff up & talk rubbish!

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Feelingstressed444 · 28/06/2015 21:03

That's what I find so confusing, how the same ignorant people change their opinion from day to day then feel the need to share it!!
They get so personal and judgemental at an already highly emotional time!!

As vain as it is, I'm not ashamed to admit that today I felt for the first time slightly worried a it losing my baby weight and when I'd get my figure back!!

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IfYouWereARiverIdLearnToFloat · 28/06/2015 23:01

There is nothing wrong with the size of your bump. Whatever size it is, is the size it's meant to be.

Don't worry about what anyone else says. I think people just feel the need to roll out the same old judgemental lines regardless of the situation.

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whittlefish · 29/06/2015 09:46

I know what you all mean I keep getting told I have a neat bump and am "carrying low" which is making me really paranoid now. People should just leave it to 'you look well' etc and leave it there. The other thing that drive me nuts is he first thing people say to be is how's the bump? Not how are you very frustrating Confused

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lauraa4 · 29/06/2015 10:22

Sometimes I will be told by someone that I'm huge and then on the same day be told by someone else that I'm small! As long as your midwife is happy with your size then tell everyone else to piss off!

I always find that the people who are giving me 'advise' on how I look or what I should or shouldn't be doing in my pregnancy have never actually had children which I find hilarious.

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Poppytime · 29/06/2015 10:28

Oh god I completely sympathise, I'm going through this myself at the moment. I was quite small with dd1 and always got comments on that, now 26 weeks pregnant with no.2 and getting loads of comments on how big my bump is, shock at how I still have 3 months to go etc etc, I am feeling so self conscious and down about it Hmm it's true people just feel they have free reign to say something and comment, they rarely step back and think about how that comment may be taken. Aargh, sorry just so frustrated for us all! Unfortunately it's not going to stop people so I guess we just need to grow a thicker skin and try to not let it bother us, I keep trying to remind myself how this is probably the last time I will be pregnant and I should savour it and try and enjoy it - v hard though.

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newtonupontheheath · 29/06/2015 10:29

The worst for this is the canteen staff at my work. They have to say something. The funny thing is, they didn't know/realise I was pregnant til I was 24weeks when I was having a conversation with a colleague in the queue. The following week, and ever since, I have been "huge" Then last week I was "very low" and shouldn't still be in work apparently. They talk bollocks, I just try to ignore.

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PiercedMrsL · 29/06/2015 12:46

I'm 35 weeks today and people STILL feel the need to comment on how "big" my bump is!
Erm I've got 5 weeks until my due date... honestly did you think I would be smaller at this point? I'm 5"1 and still wearing some of my pre pregnancy clothes, yes please continue to tell me I'm massive Wink
Some people honestly have nothing better to do.

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Stinkersmum · 29/06/2015 12:48

I just can't get angry about people commenting on my bump. Maybe because I don't care what they think?

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GinUpGirl · 29/06/2015 12:51

I think people sometimes think that telling you you have a big bump is a compliment. Like, a big, health growing baby that makes you glow.

Who knows?

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villainousbroodmare · 29/06/2015 12:55

People just feel they have to say something but don't quite know what to say so some put their feet in it.
I imagine those will be the same people who will say faintly gormless things about your baby's appearance, who he resembles, how he's dressed and your sleepless eyebags in a couple of months' time.
I'd put as much effort into pondering the meaning of their remarks as they evidently put into formulating them - ie, none. Grin

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Therein2tics · 29/06/2015 13:04

It is irritating. I am not sure why anyone might need to comment at all. It must be the "done thing" in conversations!

I really feel like replying about their stomach shape!
Like ooooh your stomach is hanging a bit low today, what did you eat last night?
or mmm you can't be eating enough your stomach is practically inverted!

But I don't as that would also be ridiculous and rude.

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MissTwister · 29/06/2015 13:14

Someone told me I was tiny when I was waiting in hospital for a growth scan because I was measuring big. Then I realised to ignore people!

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yummymango · 29/06/2015 16:27

This is something that has really annoyed me this time. How dare people! I have had the opposite, people (including my own sister!) saying 'are you sure of your due date'? or 'are you sure you're not having twins'! Yes of course I'm effing sure, I have had a medical professional telling me every 4 weeks for the past 8 months!
Seriously people seem to think that as your pregnant they have the right to comment on how you look when they wouldn't dare normally. The only thing thats kept me going are my lovely friends who continue to tell me I look great each time I see them (when clearly I don't)!

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blowinahoolie · 29/06/2015 21:39

I have been asked if it's twins.

I apparently look close to term although I'm only 31 weeks, almost 32 weeks pregnant.

Just ignore it. I spoke to the midwife today at my check up and she said I look as I should, everything's measuring as it should for my dates. Baby is fine.

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originalusernamefail · 29/06/2015 21:53

Due to bloat and short-arsedness I look about 6 months pregnant instead of the 12 weeks I am. I work with one of those 'I tell it like it is types' (unpleasant cow) who on shift this week has declared my bump 'abnormal' while sneering at me. When I was pregnant with DC1 she told me I'd better breast feed to have a chance of undoing what I'd done to myself Angry.

This is my second HG pregnancy and I already feel uncomfortable and 'let down' by my body without her comments. I'm a big girl but am currently maintaining / loosing weight - despite what it look like Grin.

The only acceptable thing to say to a pregnant lady is you look well imho.

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cazzabazz · 02/07/2015 10:18

I had that today - I'm 21 weeks and my bump is pretty big (I've also gained weight elsewhere, although that could be due to being too tired to exercise!), although it looks bigger/smaller depending on what I wear some of the time. But the first thing someone said to me this morning when I walked into work was "Wow, THAT'S a big tum!" I had to resist the urge to say "F* you too!", and instead just mumbled "Yes" and shuffled off. Have just posted on Facebook warning off other potential bump-commenters!

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nutty123 · 02/07/2015 10:51

Hi,
I feel your pain. I've had this throughout my pregnancy. I'm 36 weeks and people have been commenting on how small my bump is and if the baby is ok. Didn't help that I had to go for a growth scan as baby was measuring small. Everything was fine. Now over the last few weeks, apparently I've 'popped' and now look big. I can't win!
Oh and saying 'hello' to the bump in the mornings instead of me, really annoys me!

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natjayne213 · 02/07/2015 11:00

The comment are you sure there isn't 2 in there which annoys me. Yes I am very sure.. thanks for you insult. People need to learn to keep their opinions to themselves. x

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MemphisBella · 02/07/2015 11:20

I'm dreading the "ooh, are you sure it's not twins" comments this time round.

Well yes, actually, because it was twins, but one didn't make it past 7 weeks.

People need to think before they speak.

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cazzabazz · 02/07/2015 11:21

Wow, originalusernamefail, your colleague sounds horrendous! I'd have been tempted to say something like "well at least my weight gain is temporary, shame you're stuck with your nasty personality...."

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Allstoppedup · 02/07/2015 11:25

I'm 26 weeks and keep getting people wince when they hear how long I have left. It doesn't really bother me too much though, I think people just look for anything to say.

There is one woman who I see every week at toddler group who loudly exclaims with total surprise "oh, you are even bigger this week than last week!"

It makes me chuckle as I do wonder if she understands the concept that I will likely continue to look more pregnant, ya know, as my pregnancy continues!

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