I don't really like talking about personal things to friends as I'm usually so happy and bubbly I really don't want them to see me down, so I'm turning to Mumsnet for some friendly hand holding advice.
Basically, two days ago I spoke to my OH about having a baby (I'm 15 weeks pregnant today). As he's been in another city we haven't been able to speak much. We've been best friends and together for years so I didn't imagine him to react so badly, especially as we're each other's first love.
Anyway, as we're in our 20s we ideally wanted to wait til we were 30 but that didn't happen. I for one am thrilled, though unplanned I love my baby and I just think I get to be a mum longer than if I'd waited til I was 30.
Two day ago he asked me to go to an abortion clinic for a consultation to see if i could go through with it, of course I said no. I knew he would ask this because this was really the only other option we had if he didn't want a baby just yet. Needless to say I was heartbroken, and this subject was brought up whilst we were on a walk so I was left crying. THEN he spat in my face and walked away. I felt humiliated. I was crying to the point I couldn't catch my breath, it was just horrible. That day he told his mum about the pregnancy and she called me and couldnt stop apologising on his behalf when I told her about him spitting in my face. She was absolutely disgusted, but she was delighted she was going to become a grandmother. His parents are so lovely and are really supportive, so they're going to try and talk to him and see if this is him just being angry, and hopefully he will calm down because I love him to bits and I know we'd be a lovely little family (assuming he NEVER spits in my face again). As petty as it is he's removed me as a friend on facebook and at the minute he's acting like i don't exist and it really hurt. I know everyone will say he's not worth it and maybe I'll realise that one day, but this is such a shock because he's a lovely person, admittedly he has his moments, but this just takes the p*ss.
I feel like I can't enjoy my pregnancy. I don't "feel" pregnant at the minute so I'm hoping everything is still ok. I suppose as I'm 15 weeks I'm just waiting to start feeling little flutters or something now, but this is my first so I have no idea what happens when.
I'm not sure what advice I'm looking for, maybe someone to tell me to move on or to not hold out for him changing his mind or just reassurance that as a single mum I can do it. I'm just feeling a mixture of anger and sadness but in general I'm just completely heartbroken.
At least I have a lovely little baby to look forward to though!
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my OH has left me and I just can't enjoy my pregnancy
Frillsandspills · 26/06/2015 11:19
for you. I have no advice and hopefully someone is writing you a more useful reply. Your OH has behaved like an absolute arse as you know. I'm so glad that you have his family's support. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I'm so sorry things are so shit for you. I do know where you're coming from.
My ex left me when I was pregnant with my 3rd baby and had 2 toddlers.
Trust me, you can and will do it. It's hard, I felt so poorly in my pregnancy with the stress of it all and in the end I had to give birth by myself because my mum had to have the older dc, but the minute she was born and I looked at her little face, she was all mine and I felt like a superhero for what I'd achieved.
Surround yourself with the people who will support you. Don't feel any shame for admitting that you're upset rather than happy and bubbly. It's your ex that should be ashamed, honestly it sounds as if you deserve much better than this man despite loving him. I loved my ex, and had him back some time after our daughter was born. He never changed and left me for the last time when she was 7 months old.
Congratulations on your lovely baby. It won't be easy but it will be so rewarding.
Poor you! That is such a horrible thing to do to anybody, I would think a lot less of someone who spat in anyone's face like that... Let alone spitting in the face of the lady who was carrying their child! If he is capable of that, I would be worried about him being capable of more...
I would also second what batfish said: " I would think very carefully about letting him back into your life because that comes across as quite violent and degrading and there is evidence to show that a lot of domestic violence begins during pregnancy".
Many congratulations! 
Please make sure that you and your baby are safe, and that you stay safe.
I would say that you and your baby have had a lucky escape. A man who spits in your face is utterly contemptible. That kind of behaviour is a first step towards escalating abuse.
As had been said many times on MN, when someone shows you for the first time who they really are, believe them. Don't take this man back.
My DD's father left me when I was 4 months pregnant. Nine years on we are doing just fine without him. You will too.
Congratulations on your pregnancy.
Why or how can he be this angry about have a baby 
, did he say why he reacted the way he did? Is it just because a bubba is going earlier than he expected? Did he even give you a reason as to why he spat in your face?
Personality is take a cricket bat to his car just to make myself feel better ????
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