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Oh dear

(30 Posts)
tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 12:05:23

My manager keeps asking me why I need to keep going to the docs. Is it time to tell him and how shall I do it?

Number3cometome Wed 24-Jun-15 12:14:43

How many weeks are you?

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 12:19:18

12 weeks but will find out properly next week.

Number3cometome Wed 24-Jun-15 12:21:27

How many appointments have you had for him to be asking?

Runningupthathill82 Wed 24-Jun-15 12:24:09

Have you had an awful lot of appointments? I've only had one in the first 12 weeks, during each pregnancy.

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 12:24:19

Three so far and have another one coming up

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 12:27:24

I had one 3 weeks ago I got two next week then another one the week later

WannabeLaraCroft Wed 24-Jun-15 12:39:02

That's quite a lot of appointments, but to be honest it's none of your manager's business what your appointments are for. If you weren't pregnant, you might have gone to 3 different appointments for 3 different things!

Might be a good idea to tell him, but don't feel you have to.

Number3cometome Wed 24-Jun-15 12:39:15

I would just say you haven't been feeling well and are having some tests.

If they persist on it, say you are pregnant.

The only issue you have by not telling them is that they can refuse to pay you, but once they know you are pregnant they have to allow reasonable time off for appointments etc

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 12:45:40

I told them it was my specialist wants me to have a load of tests done and stuff. He says he's worried by how many appointments.

LostSoulsForever Wed 24-Jun-15 12:45:41

This is from a citizens advice leaflet and might be of help.

" Time off to visit the doctor or dentist
Your employer may allow you time off work to visit the doctor or dentist but they are not legally required to do so unless your contract of employment says they are. Your employer can, for example, insist that you make these visits outside work hours, that you take holiday leave or that you make the time up later on. You should check your contract of employment to see what rights you have to take time off for doctors or dental appointments.
Pregnant women, however, are allowed reasonable paid time off work for ante-natal care. This time does not need to be made up later on. If you are disabled and your employer will not let you take time off for a medical appointment connected with your disability, they could be breaking the law. You should get help from an experienced adviser - see Further help at the end of this fact sheet."

If you do decide to tell him just make it clear whether or not you are for the information to be shared, and who with. Legally you do not have to declare you are pregnant to your employer until around the 25 week mark (don't quote me on this but the info should be easy to find).

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 12:47:16

Thank you for that. I'll see what my OH says he always has an answer lol

Number3cometome Wed 24-Jun-15 12:47:32

Do you normally have a good relationship with your employer and is your attendance usually good?

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 12:51:31

We're really close. I've never had a day off sick. He's sent me home once that's it. He helps my back I help his it's how it's always been. I'm just worried cause I've only been there 5 months and I'm on 6 month probation period it might go against me

Skiptonlass Wed 24-Jun-15 12:53:59

DO NOT TELL them during your probation!!

Leave it another month... Friend of mine just got 'let go' six days before her probation finished when she put in a question on flexible working. They can fire you for almost anything during that probationary period - be careful.

Number3cometome Wed 24-Jun-15 12:57:56

Oh, defo do not tell them if you are on probation!!!

AbbeyRoadCrossing Wed 24-Jun-15 12:59:12

You don't have to tell them until 25 weeks legally so it's up to you. If you don't want to say you could says it's a women's issue / gynaecology, as it kind of is!

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 Wed 24-Jun-15 13:20:06

You don't have to tell them but then they don't have to let you have any time off for appts. 3 in 2 weeks is a lot of appts and they don't have to let you have any time off work for those if you choose not to tell them its antenatal.

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 14:20:54

So I'm on probation don't tell them then

PotteringAlong Wed 24-Jun-15 14:22:41

I'd tell them otherwise you risk them letting you go anyway for your dodgy sickness record. If you're not going to tell them you need to stop getting appointments in working hours.

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 14:24:43

I tried to get them after I finish work but as I do 9-6 Monday to Friday and my hospital don't do appointments late or on the weekend I'm screwed.

BaronessBomburst Wed 24-Jun-15 14:24:51

No definitely don't tell them!
I'd be tempted to make something up. Eye test? Piles? Dropped arches? grin

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 14:25:41

Haha I keep telling him it's because my specialist wants me to have a load of tests done. Hopefully he's believing me

formidable Wed 24-Jun-15 14:30:28

Don't tell him, he's got no right to know.

If he asks, tell him you find his questions inappropriate.

tinyme135 Wed 24-Jun-15 15:03:49

Okay. After these appointments they should slow down so he won't moan lol

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