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term today and kicked partner out.....

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3rdbump Thu 28-May-15 20:24:54

Well after much consideration to the matter it looks like am going it alone.
I am term today.....basically been on tender hooks for the past few weeks as had a few scares. So where has my so called partner been for the past few weeks and today? Out drinking again with friends. He was out 2 x last week random nights drinking and uncontactable......out last Thursday same shit and then today most of the afternoon he spent it drinking. Am so mad and upset and feel utterly let down. He clearly has issues!! Not me.......
I put a shameful post on fb asking for help or someone I can relay on to help with childcare if I go into labour, family and close friends live too far. My sister is coming down tomorrow to stay with us until baby comes, she's travelling 5 hours up. OH is now telling me how pathetic and sad I am......In reality he is the sad and pathetic One. He has said basically he doesnt care about missing the birth and hasnt wanted to be with me for ages now. Have told him to pack his bags and be gone tomorrow, it's hard to deal with and stay strong for the kids :/

TrashcanMan Thu 28-May-15 20:35:42

You poor thing, I am so sorry. Your DP sounds like an absolute bastard. I am glad your sister is coming to stay with you, please take care of yourself.

youlemming Thu 28-May-15 20:40:17

Sorry no advice but just wanted to say good for you and all the best for the labour and moving forward, I can only imagine what it's been like for you and it must have been a tough decision to make.

Allthatnonsense Thu 28-May-15 20:43:16

Focus on yourself, your children and your baby.

Don't waste precious energy fuming about his behaviour. He let you down, but he had more to lose.

3rdbump Thu 28-May-15 20:50:00

Thank you everyone.
Will probably be a bit of a mess for the next few weeks/months but rather have a few months of getting over it than years more worth of upset and worry. Just hoping that PND won't kick in......It did the past 2 times and that was mainly down to him :/

TrashcanMan Thu 28-May-15 20:51:34

I know it sounds strange, but I would try and put him out of your mind for the next few days and concentrate on your baby. These next few days will be so special, so wonderful, that you don't want to miss them by stressing out on that prick. He'll still be a prick in a few weeks. And don't feel shameful for asking for help, no one will think badly of you. He's the asshole. Xxx

Skiptonlass Thu 28-May-15 21:02:32

There is no shame in asking for help. None whatsoever. It takes strength to do that.

And utterly disgusting of him to shame you for it, as he's the one who has let you down.

Very glad you have family around you - good luck with the birth!

sianihedgehog Thu 28-May-15 21:06:59

Good for you chucking him out. Absolutely sounds like the right choice, and far better to do it now than later.

sarah00001 Thu 28-May-15 21:22:29

I'm so sorry, but good on you for kicking him out. What a dreadful man to do this to you. I really do feel for you as I'm going it alone too. I split up with my partner a few months ago so I know I've had time to get used to it, but my pregnancy brought out the absolute worst in him.

I know its hard, but you can do this. How dare he say you are sad and pathetic. Just shows what a nasty creature he is. My ex said the same about me when I said how hard it was going through pregnancy alone. They are both truly pathetic.

I am so glad you have support and that your sister is coming down. Will she be your birth partner? My sister will be mine.

Wishing you all the best, you will be just fine xxx

MissMartin1992 Thu 28-May-15 21:27:10

i hope your okay, Stay strong thanks x

ARV1981 Thu 28-May-15 22:26:17

I'm sorry it's come to this, but for what it's worth, I think you've done the right thing. You deserve better than him, and so does your baby and other children.

Stay strong, accept the support your sister is offering and most of all enjoy your new baby when it makes an appearance flowers

3rdbump Fri 29-May-15 00:12:58

Thank you.
I can't sleep my mind is racing yet i am so tired :/

Theselittlelightsofmine Fri 29-May-15 00:27:11

Your PND won't kick in as you have rid yourself of the cause.

Roseybee10 Fri 29-May-15 03:21:50

Sorry this has happened but so glad you've got rid of such a horrible man from your life. It will be hard but in some ways so much easier without having a mill stone around your neck in the form of this idiot.
Xx

contractor6 Fri 29-May-15 06:10:29

flowers good luck and your sister sounds like a starstar

scarednoob Fri 29-May-15 07:36:45

You have made the right choice for you and your children. An amazingly strong and difficult choice too.

He's going to sober up and realise what a massive mistake he has made. Going out drinking with his mates is nothing compared to what he is going to miss. More fool him.

I know it's cheesy but maybe make yourself a little playlist with good angry breakup songs on it - you can listen to that if you're having a sleepless night! We could all give you suggestions smile

ceebelle83 Fri 29-May-15 08:24:43

Good girl! I know, as others before me have rightly said, it'll be tough initially but you have absolutely done the right thing.
You already have children with this selfish dickhead so by rights he should have been at home giving you a hand instead of out drinking family money away and acting like a single university student...what if you'd gone into labour while he'd been unreachable? What an asshole!!!

Concentrate on yourself and your little ones. You are in the right here!

HoldenCaulfield80 Fri 29-May-15 08:27:07

What a twat. Good for you OP, keep strong thanks

lauraa4 Fri 29-May-15 10:25:41

3rdbump I remember your previous posts so am happy for you that you have made this stand.

Stay strong for your kids, you deserve so much better flowers

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