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Can't believe im having a baby tomorrow-thinking the absolute worst!!

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Halleberry Wed 13-May-15 00:20:33

Can't sleep, palms sweating, panicky, pacing, racing thoughts. My ELCS is tomorrow morning! I can't believe I'm having a baby tomorrow! And for the love of God I cant (as hard as I try) think positively! I suffer from a large range of mental health problems. On top of being concerned that my little princess will be ok ... My out look for the weeks k come is so bleak. I'm having all these crazy images of having a nervous break down and being carted off in an ambulance to a mental institution. I am utterly terrified I'm not going to cope. This pregnancy has been unbelievabley hard, and I have prayed that once she is here the hormones will calm down and I might feel
Ok. But now I'm here thinking what a daft thing that is for me to think. Jeez why would my hormones calm down AFTER having her? If anything they will be worse sad I already have a son who needs me, and both of them will need me to be strong but try as I might to think positive, it's as if I have a mental block that will not let me see past the badsad sorry for late night (well early morning) rant! I'm just so scared and needed to vent xx

Cirsium Wed 13-May-15 00:43:51

flowers I think it is perfectly normal to worry about these things and especially the night before an ELCS. You come across as a very loving mum who is aware of her limitations and coping well with them. Take it a minute at a time, ask for and take all the practical support you can in real life and enjoy newborn snuggles tomorrow. Hope it all goes really well and your hormones give you lots of happy, joyful feelings.

Halleberry Wed 13-May-15 00:57:46

Thankyou cirsium. I've been a mess for months. I just hope these hormones once she is here don't send me over the edge into insanity. I'm having major fears of this sad and having major depression through this pregnancy puts me at higher risk for PND. Wish so much I could have positive thoughts of happiness sad my mental block won't let me!! X

Grainwhole Wed 13-May-15 06:57:38

Just a quick one from me as rushing, but DH and I were convinced I'd be hot by PND, based in history, but in the event I have never, ever been happier than I was with newborn; not even a touch of baby blues, ever. Hormones are unpredictable things - allow yourself to remember it really COULD be ok, amazing even! Xxx

BumWad Wed 13-May-15 07:54:47

Good luck for today smile

codandchipstwice Wed 13-May-15 08:09:29

Just to reassure I had horrific ante natal depression but pnd was a breeze in comparison, once the baby was here I HAD to get on with things rather than catastrophise about what could happen

There is much more support for pnd too, and it's looked out for so much compared to and that treatments aimed at supporting you within the family can be accessed so so much more quickly than in non pn depression.

Best of luck today, how exciting

Skiptonlass Wed 13-May-15 08:21:34

If you weren't swirling with emotions and anxieties the day before a section you'd win "most zen mother to be of the year" award!

You CAN do this, and you will. Try (I know, much easier said than done) to not catastrophise. you won't end up being sectioned. You'll go in, you'll be nervous and you know what? They will see that as normal pre section nerves. They'll think 'another patient a bit nervous as always.' You will have your section and you will wake up with a lovely baby. And you will manage.

Good luck. I've read several of your threads and I hope everything goes well for you!

Hippymama1 Wed 13-May-15 09:21:10

Good luck for everything today...

I have suffered with antenatal depression and anxiety too so here to offer some hand holding. Please let us know how you are getting on when youhave time. flowers

WannabeLaraCroft Wed 13-May-15 10:14:35

Good luck!

Take all the support you can if you need it. flowers

happygojo Wed 13-May-15 10:28:09

Good Luck! You will be absolutely fine! I also think that the reason that they say people with a history of depression are more prone to PND is because we know the difference between 'being a bit down' and depression. We know when we need help. If you need help. Ask!

ARV1981 Wed 13-May-15 11:02:46

Good luck hun xxx

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