No such thing as TMI on the pregnancy board right?
I'm now at a stage in pregnancy where perineal massage is recommended. I didn't have stitches after my first birth and would like to do what I can to avoid them this time around too.
The only problem I have is how exactly I can reach my perineum with a large bump in the way.... Any position I can find is only manageable for short amounts of time. Anyone out there found an easier way of doing it? I don't want to have to resort to strategically manipulated back scratchers....
Well I did get DP involved and we had possibly the most awkward 5 minutes of our lives. I fear my sex life post birth may never recover if we start to associate intimate touching with that experience....
I'll give the bath a go. Could do with a lock really. If DS walks in on me he may never recover.
Get everything you need handy.... Almond oil etc Lie on the bed on a towel prop your back up on at least 3 pillows prop mirror up in front of you Feet together under your bum Open legs like you do when having a smear Enjoy!
TouchPauseEngage is actually a very appropriate name for this discussion!
I'd not heard of perineal massage until recently. My NHS trust makes you navigate past a guide before you can find contact details for antenatal services which is where I can across it. I have heard of third and fourth degree tears though and although I was lucky with my first, that was a long time ago and the thought of significant trauma to the area scares me silly. Leg-on-the-bath has yielded the most success so far. I found lying down quite a stretch (scuse the pun)
Had my first in France recently, as part of antenatal classes here perineal massage is routinely advised, and also that your partner helps you out. You can buy special oils made by Weleda for it (although almond oil is fine).
Really it's not so gross, and your partner will likely be seeing you at a much less flattering angle than this during birth anyway...
I found it very helpful to know what the feeling of crowning would be like, and learn how to breathe through it. And also to know just how much it is possible to stretch down there without drastic amounts of pain, I really was less frightened after 3 weeks of daily sessions. I combined it with relaxing music and essential oil (to smell, not use down there!), so it was more like some kind of really hardcore yoga we were trying to learn together than something embarassing- although the first time it was pretty odd I'm sure it helped during the labour, as I didn't find the crowning that bad, the contractions during pushing were more painful.