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Elective C-section

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samesong12 · 06/02/2015 17:27

Hi all, ? am 34wks pregnant with second child and am looking for advice on elective c section.
? suffer from severe SPD, stumbling through with belt, crutches and bedrest. ? also started suffering with Anxiety and palpitations after my first child.
After many talks with my midwife and time to think about what ? feel is best for my birth ? had an appointment with consultants to discuss a planned section and was left totally fuming.
My first child was born with normal delivery and although there were a few problems everything was fine in the end and ? recovered well. My main issue with the birth was the terrible care ? received during and after labour.
? explained my worries to the consultant about the laçk of care and consideration during my first delivery and how this time with the constant pain and stress ?m under , after much consideration ? would like an elective section. ?m worried about being forced to use stirrups (? was made to in first delivery even though it was against my wishes due to the SPD but ? didnt argue it as they were in a hurry to get baby out) and worried about causing more damage to my pelvis. ? cannot open my legs at all and have problems with my knee meaning ? cant put any weight on it.
When i was given a date to see the consultant about booking a section ? relaxed immediately knowing ? would have a date when my little one would be here and the stress and worry was replaced with excitement and determination to get through the last few weeks! ? was told by my midwife that they could not turn down my request for a section but ? would have to listen to the risks etc. ? had done weeks of research and was happy to discuss these. However, the consultation was the most infuriating, patronising experience of my life! ? was told matter of factly that ? would not be able to pick my baby up for 6 weeks after a section, that it would affect future pregnancies (i said this is my last and im 100% sure about this and was told ? was young so how would ? know this) ?m 27 and in no way am ? putting myself through the struggles ?ve had in this pregnancy again. ? only ever wanted 2 Children anyway. ? was given the huge list of cons of a section and the list of of pros of natural birth. ? felt like ? was being talked too like a child who had not already thought about any of this.
? have a massive support network should ? need it for the recovery of a section but basically the meeting ended with me being refused and told ? could go back with my mum to re talk. (? am adult enough to make decisions without my mum however her and the rest of my family back my decision)

Does anyone have any advice on what to do next? ? left the hospital angry and in tears and now am stressing about what to do next. Should ? try to move hospitals or stay where ? am as ? dont have long left and hope for the best. ? would like to make it clear that ? am not afraid to give birth naturally but more about the extra pain and possible damage that can be done to my pelvis.

All advice would be appreciated, thanks.

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mineymo · 06/02/2015 17:45

You've been treated awfully, I'm sorry this happened to you.

NICE guidelines clearly state that you are entitled to see a different consultant if the first consultant will not grant you a cs. You need to take advantage of that and demand to see someone different, and soon since they will likely carry out an elcs at 39 weeks. I'd phone your midwife asap and find out how you go about doing this.