Just found out I'm pregnant with my third child and had minor disagreement with DH last night about my throwaway comment 'there's no way I'm letting those doctors anywhere near me this time around, I'm going to stand my ground'. This has resulted in him telling me that I have to do as I'm told and can't be 'stroppy'. so, how stroppy AM I allowed to be?
here's the facts (and I am making comparisons to my pregnancy with my son here):
- was told at 12 week scan that I was 13.5 weeks, which was impossible, so for entire pregnancy I was given the wrong dates and was actually just having a big baby. This wrong date had implications throughout and I wish I'd insisted that they put it right
- was put on gestational diabetes watch, was told at 20 weeks that I'd be induced at 40 weeks (or 39 if they took my accurate dates) so had whole pregnancy worried about this. this was even though my GTT was ok and had no sugars in in urine etc
- was put on 0.5 ml insulin at 36 weeks which meant I was then induced at 38 weeks (37 weeks according to my dates).
- intrusive induction process (ie 2 sweeps, ineffective; 2 pessaries (ineffective) 4 days in hospital, attempt to break waters which they couldn't do because baby wasn't engaged, finally had C-section.
- baby born healthy, not overweight etc - but because of being born at 37 weeks had no end of issues in the early days
am I being stroppy to not want this again, or should I stand up for myself a bit more and contest these things? how stroppy am I allowed to be??