This is more of a rant than anything so I apologise in advance! I'm also looking for opinions on what you mums think about this because I was so taken back back by it.
I am now 36 weeks pregnant and pretty massive at this point! I am heavily tattooed (arms, hands, chest etc). I work a restaurant manager and I'm still pulling in 55+ hours a week.
Last night I was in work and I had a couple come in for some food. I sat them down. Everything was fine until they had finished their food and they were paying for their bill. I went to take their payment because we were busy and their waitress was taking an order from a different table. I was being really polite and friendly asking them if they had any plans for the rest weekend etc and the woman turned around to me, not answering my question.
Instead she looked directly at me and "I feel so sorry for that child you're carrying."
I was so stunned. I just responded with "What?"
Her reply: "How on earth do you think you can raise a child looking like that?"
I couldn't say anything I was so shocked. I just turned and walked away from them. I am so upset by this woman's thinking because how I look has absolutely nothing to do with how I raise my baby. I understand everyone has their own opinion but surely saying this sort of thing isn't ok. Sorry it's so long!
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rubberducky87 · 01/02/2015 09:38
What a bitch. Of course it's not ok. Hope you're alright though. 
Some people are just dicks. You're a couple of weeks away from bringing your lovely baby home- don't even give her headspace.
I feel sorry for any children in her life who may be influenced by her ignorant opinions!! 
As far as I am aware my dd has never been affected in any way by having two tattooed parents.
Don't worry op, the majority of the world aren't complete judgemental idiots 
I wonder how good she would be at raising DC with an attitude like that.
What a bitch.
for you.
What a hideous thing to say. You did well to be so professional and walk away - I would've given them a piece of my mind!
What a twat. Please don't think that's the opinion of the minority! It's defiantly not the opinion of myself seeing as my DP is absolutely smothered in tattoos!
Well done for walking away, personally I'd have thrown a drink over her and had her banned from the restaurant.
I'm so sorry you had to experience that ignorance
What a knob. You are more restrained than me, I would have told her exactly where to fuck off to.
Jesus, are tattoos even that big a deal these days?! Heavily tattooed women aren't THAT unusual anymore. Why do some people still insist on hoiking their tits about it 
Oh my! 
You know this is her issue, not yours, don't you?
Imagine living as such a judgemental, narrow-minded person.
I am an old gimmer, I don't have any tattoos and I don't understand the desire to have one (or many 
). I do find them interesting and have at times asked people about particularly striking ones, but I have no idea how whether your skin is untouched by ink or covered in it makes one jot of a difference wrt what kind of parent you are going to be.
Stupid narrow-mindedness however, would worry me in a parent.
I hope you can forget about her as quickly as she deserves to be forgotten.
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Oh, and prepare yourself to be judged about many aspects of your parenting: once a mother, some people seem to take it upon themselves to judge your choices
Fwiw, I was judged for being an older mum
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