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Terrified of being pregnant again

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MrsRayOfSunshine Wed 28-Jan-15 13:49:02

Hi everyone! Really looking for some reassurance.
I've just had my DD 6 weeks ago, I also have a 15 month old ds, so it's been pretty stressful, but I'm absolutely terrified that I'm pregnant again, to the point I feel sick worrying myself about it, with my first I had my first period 4 weeks after he was born, but I'm still waiting for my period to come this time.

Dh and I have only had sex 3 times after the birth, all of which we used a condom, so I know deep down the chances are slim. But I've been having mild cramping for a few days, nasuea and eating everything I can fit in my mouth, and craving milk like I did both pregnancies which I'm sure is just my imagination. I'm just so worried and don't know how is cope with another baby in such a small space of time, what I'm really asking is it normal to feel all this anxiety like this to the point it's making me feel ill and not a very great person to be around.

weelamb123 Wed 28-Jan-15 16:02:24

Sorry but u only gave birth 6 weeks ago? Why on earth are u having sex?

Number3cometome Wed 28-Jan-15 16:05:38

Why can't she have sex within 6 weeks?
If she is happy to do so, then what is the issue?

fattymcfatfat Wed 28-Jan-15 16:07:12

I had sex around 8 weeks after having my dd. The chances are very slim op. If you are worried leave it a couple of weeks then test. I got pg this time using condoms so it can happen but I really think you are worrying for nothing

BlueberryWafer Wed 28-Jan-15 16:07:31

Why on earth shouldn't she have sex because she gave birth 6 weeks ago?! If she had no tears or stitches and she feels comfortable enough to have sex then why the heck not?!

amy83firsttimer Wed 28-Jan-15 16:07:44

Why shouldn't she? Assuming both parties are feeling ready there's no rules about when you can remount the pony!

Are you ff or bf? If bf and condoms it's incredibly unlikely that you're pregnant and it's probably just your hormones settling down.
Obviously if bf it's still very unlikely but a teeny bit more likely. Could the way you're feeling just be ovulation?

icklekid Wed 28-Jan-15 16:08:15

It was months after giving birth for my first period - are you breastfeeding? Take a test to know but perhaps consider other contraception as well as condoms to prevent future scares?

fattymcfatfat Wed 28-Jan-15 16:08:24

Dd was ten months when I caught btw!

weelamb123 Wed 28-Jan-15 16:10:06

How can u have time or the inclination to have sex with a toddler and 6 week old baby! It must just be me.....i took about 8-10 weeks after ds was born and I had a section. Anyway, I'm obviously just a prude.....lol.

Babiecakes11 Wed 28-Jan-15 16:10:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

amy83firsttimer Wed 28-Jan-15 16:10:23

ff second paragraph.

MrsRayOfSunshine Wed 28-Jan-15 16:19:03

Thanks ladies, I have been advised by my health visitor to talk to my gp about anxiety problems, so I think this may be why I seem to be worrying about this so much, and I didn't tear much, but also have been lucky to have two great sleepers and very chilled out babies, most days... On stressful days the thought of sex makes me shudder!

Number3cometome Wed 28-Jan-15 16:19:26

I didn't get a period until I stopped breastfeeding about 10 months I think?

I had sex as soon as my post natal bleeding stopped both times, I had a c-section both times.

I am a firm believer that you should always make time for your relationship and sex is very important to me.
I know it's not to everyone, but I don't think there is any harm in doing it once you are ready. And by the same token, if you are not ready then you should not feel pressured.

OP don't worry, very unlikely and probably just hormones.

MrsRayOfSunshine Wed 28-Jan-15 16:19:30

And should add yes I am ff

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