I had an early scan and the sonographer said the same to me, all looked healthy but she couldn't say if pregnancy would continue. Now 12+3, still paranoid despite seeing baby twice. I've booked a private reassurance scan for 4 weeks time
It's common policy not to offer early scans for reassurance on the NHS unless you have had 3 previous MCs.
However she sounds like an insensitive cow and she could have been more gentle with you.
If you google "early pregnancy scan <insert name of town where you live>" you will probably find a fair few private clinics who will do a scan between 7-12 weeks for between £75 and £100 depending on where you live in the Uk.
I live in London and did this at 8 weeks this time on Harley st for £99. They used the dildo-cam (!) so I could see the foetus more clearly and they even played the audio of the heartbeat out loud in the room which made me cry!
Worth the money if you can afford it. Unfortunately not available on te cash strapped NHS :-(
Outrageous that she should have been so insensitive ! And actually her stats don't sound right to me - up to 1 in 4 or 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage, but many of these happen before you'd even know about the pregnancy, and the vas-y majority are in the first few weeks. A scan showing a heartbeat at eg. 8 weeks would tell you that you only have a 2% chance of miscarriage. I was lucky enough to have such a scan and it was a huge weight off my shoulders - if you can afford to do it privately it could be worth the peace of mind.
Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy - the stats are in your favour, so try to relax if you can.
I was in the same boat as you back in September and having a previous MC really scares you!! I had to have a private scan or three before my 12 week NHS scan because I was so paranoid. Unfortunately I would be reassured for about a day, then I would start to worry again as I also suffered from spotting. But I don't think I could have got through those long first couple of months without the scans. Now I am 21w4d and I am so grateful I am at this stage! A healthy pregnancy can happen after a MC so please have some encouragement that things will be ok! There are lots of women on these threads that will have empathy for your situation and also tell you that they have had a healthy pregnancy following a loss too! I wish you all the best
Hi I had my first meeting with new midwife yesterday and also found her to be very negative, cold and unsupportive. It's my 5th pregnancy, 3 previous miscarriages n 1 beautiful girl 2 date. I have already had hemmorhaging in this pregnancy at 7wks, currently 10wks 1 day (still spotting). I felt like the midwife I saw yesterday didn't even bother to book me in until it could be confirmed I was still carrying a viable pregnancy, no point in her wasting paperwork, which I found really negative. Luckily I had an appointment with consultant 2dy and scan showed everything healthy so far. But while I was there asked about changing midwife and luckily it's been sorted so that I am back with my old lovely midwife who knew of my history. She rang me within half an hour and I see her next week .
I have a horrible midwive who made some nasty comments to me, im planning on asking for a different one or going to the hospital rather than my docs for my midwive appointments so I can see someone different