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sex during pregnancy??

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Rebecca1608 · 10/01/2015 19:06

Not sure whether I'm posting in the right topic sorry?

I'm 15 weeks pregnant with twins and would still like to enjoy a healthy sex life however I'm pretty big already. Making certain positions uncomfortable but I'm getting bored of the same thing at the same time. My partner also still likes me to dress up for him which I would love to do but my confidence is at rock bottom and try and hide away which is probably off putting as I keep asking myself why he'd want to see me dressed up when I'm at my biggest.
I want to get things back on track but don't know what to do. Not being close to him is getting me down.

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Bair · 10/01/2015 19:17

Don't dress up if you don't want to. Pregnancy does all sorts to your body, and although all changes are normal and beautiful, you don't have to pretend to be comfortable with them while dressed as a pirate/orc/giant banana to please someone else. If you love doing it, but not right now, say so. You might feel more comfortable later, it might not be till after the birth.

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Rebecca1608 · 10/01/2015 19:23

Dressing up is fine when I'm not pregnant I'm ok with it but I'm not particularly one to flaunt around anyway and when I did try over Christmas and hid away a little it didn't help my OH kept saying "let me have a look at you" but because sex is so boring at the moment I'd rather just satisfy him in other ways and go to sleep but not having the intimacy myself is getting to me.

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Firstimemummy15 · 10/01/2015 19:24

I found the bigger I got the less confident I got and tired!! There were times I was in the mood but once baby started moving he found it too weird. I'm 38+4 and trying hardest to get him in the mood in a hope it will get baby out! Lol. I know what you mean about being close to partner, I have one of these full length body pillows which makes it difficult to even hug in bed.

Just do what ur comfortable with and be honest with your partner, everyone is different

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leanne963 · 10/01/2015 19:29

I have always had quite a low sex drive pre pregnancy but now (teamed with a sensitive cervis which causes bleeding) it is the last thing on my mind. Luckily my partner is a star and just says 'it's only sex, we have so much more and I know you will worry if you started spotting afterwards' so I am so lucky he understands.
But everyone is different I know some people get a super high sex drive!!

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Rebecca1608 · 10/01/2015 19:32

Yeah I suppose you're right. The only way for things to change/improve is to talk to him because when I'm not pg I don't mind dressing up or whatever but atm I'd rather be in my PJS lol

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Rebecca1608 · 10/01/2015 19:34

I definitely had a higher sex drive in the first couple of weeks or so but I've really ballooned and feel too heavy.

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Pinkseren · 10/01/2015 19:47

I am now 37 weeks and for Christmas my partner bought me (among other things including nice jewellery and other things he knew I had my eye on) two dominatrix style catsuits, one of which could actually fit me now. My confidence is also at rock bottom and couldn't imagine why he'd want me to dress up the size I am. We agreed that I'd try one of them on just for him to see (he was not pushy or anything like that) and the fact he was obviously turned on when I tried it on has done wonders for my confidence
and it ended up being more than just trying it on. I should add that dressing up is a normal part of our sex life. Do what you are comfortable with, but my partner's attitude is that it's with him in the privacy of our own home so why not!

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Racheyg · 10/01/2015 20:31

Rebecca, wow it must be hard with twins, I only have one little bean
Speak from experience (this is my 2nd pregnancy) I usually have a high sex drive but after 6 weeks my sex drive went down the drain (even went on a "dirty"weekend and had no sex). I felt really sexy in my third trimester and couldn't get enough.

In regards to positions he can spoon from behind, or you on top (until u feel to big) or on all fours. That's only if missionary bores u also ann summers do some nice underwear that flows and coves over the bump I know it's not full dressing up but you might feel sexy if it's also comfy. Xx

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Rebecca1608 · 11/01/2015 11:06

Thanks guys. Yeah dressing up is a part of my sex life too but just feel like I don't look as nice. Ann summers is a good idea I can have a look there for something flowy. Early pregnancy I was fine and couldn't get enough of my other half but I'm just tired all the time. I'm waiting to "feel better" like everyone I know who has had kids keep telling me I will lol xx