Worried

[PurpleRose864]

Hello, I'm new here!
I have taken loads of cheapie tests, all of them have a faint line. I am doubting that they are evap lines and I am pregnant with my 3rd baby! I have 2 children of my own and a step child that lives with us, so we are taking the big leap from 3 up to 4 kids in the house. scared lol
Anyway, Although me and dh are married, own our house, work etc I am dreading telling everyone there's a new bundle of joy on the way. My family are so opinionated and I just don't think I can cope with everybody's reactions. I always seem to disappoint them! :(
anyone been in a similar situation? kind of wish I could pack my little family up and move to somewhere far away so I don't have to have them all interfering :(
This should be a happy time, but I just feel terrified.
Thanks in advance. xx

[Dogsmom]

Congratulations

Try not to worry what they think, it's what you and your husband thinks that matters, people love to interfere mainly out of their own insecurities, yeah they may not have wanted to raise 4 kids themselves but it's not them doing it.

I used to worry all the time about seeking my parents approval as Mom especially could be very opiniated and had no qualms about letting me know but I made a conscious decision in my mid 30's to live my life for myself and not her, also realising that she wasn't always in the right. It was like a weight off my shoulders.

[Bondy83]

I had a similar reaction from my mum when I announced baby no3. I've been with my husband 15yrs we both have decent jobs and a house etc and I got the " oh why have you done that" " how stupid " " hubby should be going for the snip" etc etc etc. I personally don't see what the big problem is I mean it's not like I'm still at school and doesn't know who the father is that type of thing. My dh parents were made up for us. I'm not going to lie it has affected our relationship slightly I've tended to stay out of her way and not mention it too much as I can't be doing with the disappointing comments, she had a huge go at me for having a 4d scan that really really upset me but that's a whole other story. As long as you dh and your children are happy that's the main thing it's your life no one else.

[PurpleRose864]

Thank you for your replies!
I thought I had got to that stage where other people and their opinions didn't worry me anymore - obviously not.
I'm 28 and feel like i've been a naughty child sat wondering how i'm going to tell people. It's ridiculous really and when I really think about it i know it has nothing to do with anyone but me, my hubby and children! but then that horrible sense of dread comes over me again.
I suppose it's happened now so whoever doesn't like it will just have to get over it :)
I often think, when people have such opinions on other people's lives....how would they react if I was to tell them what the right or wrong thing is to do in their lives. I'm guessing they would tell me to mind my own business.....
thank you :)

[weelamb123]

Its nothing to do with anyone else except you and ur husband. Stuff them is they aren't supportive, as long as ur hubby is, that's all that matters xxx