We've been invited to dh family for a meal and I'm not sure if I really want to go. Mainly because when we usually go there, at least three members of his family smoke indoors, to the point my eyes are stinging. 23weeks pregnant and don't really want to put my unborn child at that kind of risk, any advice on what I should do? Oh has already explained I won't be going but he's going to go alone and now I feel a bit guilty. I'd rather not go though than ask someone not to smoke in their own home.
Thanks ladies. I ended up not going. Neither did dh. Don't feel as bad now as ive since found out other members of his family were not there either for various reasons. The next dilemma is that his (smoking) grandmother has been knitted for the baby. Will washing the items get rid of all the smoke? Ha, sorry I'm a worrier. X
Thanks smogsville, I'm glad someone else thinks like me. Yes that's what I'm thinking, accept but not actually use. MIL says it will be fine but I'm not so sure. Arghhh the whole holding baby thing is stressing me out too, what will I actually say? My dh brother is also a smoker, and I've warned him he won't be able to hold baby, although some of his family think I'm over reacting
I gather from the article that some further study is needed (as always). But really it should be enough: who would want to risk a baby's health?!? It's going to be awkward but if your newborn has to be in regular close contact with heavy smokers, a conversation will have to happen. 3rd hand smoke is not just about a stale odour.
My dad's a smoker and he won't be getting his hands on this baby until he's washed up and changed his clothes regardless of how harmful he refuses to accept smoke is. Addicts will minimize the effects of their habits and justify their behaviour if they can so I wouldn't be guided by their views.
I'm in a similar position but I really couldn't care less about offending smokers. I have spent almost 9 months growing and protecting our baby and I'm not going to let FIL/DM/BIL/SIL fill his lungs with their stinky 3rd hand smoke.