How to let people know about miscarriage

[ParsleyCake]

My friend lost her baby early in the second trimester, a few weeks after announcing the pregnancy. She does not want to have to explain the situation repeatedly as she is unerstandably upset, and it would be impossible to tell her large network of friends, colleuges and relatives in person at once. Is it a bad idea to make a tasteful statement on her facebook page? she has already told those closest to her, but it might be a good way of letting everyone else know.

[sianihedgehog]

I made a statement on Facebook and in it I asked all my friends to please tell anyone who they thought might know about the pregnancy as I couldn't handle telling people individually as I was very upset. I also called my mum and asked her to please tell my other relatives.

[thatwhichwecallarose]

I had a few very understanding friends that spread the knowledge to specific friendship groups in my behalf.

Everyone just kind of got it when no bump/baby appeared and it wasn't an issue.

[SpanielFace]

I lost my 2nd baby at 21 weeks. I made an announcement on facebook. I was worried it was bad taste or people would see it as somehow attention selling, but in the end I didn't care - it got the information out there to most people and saved me from 95% of the awkward conversations. Sorry for your friend. I'm 7 months on now, and still struggling with sadness.

[SpanielFace]

*seeking, not selling, obviously.

[JennyBlueWren]

A (distant) friend put a message up on Facebook along the lines of "As some of you know P and I were expecting our first baby next spring. Unfortunately we lost baby last Friday. I'm sure you'll understand if I'm a bit quiet for a while."