Well my OH got a new computer game yesterday.
I was working night shift last night.
Kitchen needed cleaning (as does whole place but kitchen mainly)
We went out for lunch/shopping yesterday.not organised to clean before we left which would have solved this problem before it became one Got home later than planned so went for my pre-work nap. Got up organised self for work and notice nothing has been washed/tidied etc. He's watching the fricking hobbits. He informs me he'll be playing computer games all night. Which is fine. It's the wknd after all. Stupidly assume he'll at least start doing dishes.
Fast forward to 8.30 this am. Come home from work (late because of scraping frosty car windows) to find nothing done. To tired to care so go to bed.
Get up this afternoon to find him playing computer games yet again and NOTHING has been done. Still tired but now annoyed.
Cue me passive aggressively clattering about washing dishes, cleaning surfaces and putting a clothes wash on.
Then go into bedroom and he comes in and asks if I want a cup of tea. no I fucking dont, although didn't swear at him
Then asks me what's wrong, which I proceed to tell him whilst trying not to cry.
He then asks what needs done.....OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE WHAT NEEDS DONE!!!!! Says me thru tears.
So now he's passive aggressively stomping about moving things.his version of tidy
We both can be equally untidy but I feel I need to prompt him much more than I should to get things done. And I do so much more in terms of cleaning. I know I'm being silly. But is it too much to ask that he uses his brain? He didn't even offer to help. And his excuse for that was 'that I'd already done it' eh was in there for a good 20-30mins and he didn't even ask. The kitchen is a tiny room off the living room, there's no door, he could hardly miss me.
Sorry for the long rant but needed to vent and I'm too fragile for AIBU board
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